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Top Tinder Tips for Men (Get MORE Matches!)

Tinder is still one of the fastest growing dating apps in the world.

But there’s a huge problem you’ve probably experienced already…

There are so many single men swiping and competing for the same beautiful women on Tinder, that it’s hard to match with the women you actually want.

So how do you stand out from all the other guys?

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TOP TINDER TIPS FOR MEN
How To Get More Matches!

I’m going to be brutally honest with you men, in today’s time and era we now have more single people than ever before, so if you are feeling like the fishing pond is a little crowded that’s because it is!

So, the competition is high and it means that you can’t just rely on the casual photo to win her over anymore. Truth is you literally have 1/10th of a second before she decided if she will swipe left or right on you. Like literally that’s a split second #ouch

So here are my tips to help you leave an impression before and after she chooses you:

 

# 3 Choose a great primary photo

 

Your first photo is everything, it literally is the deciding factor of whether or not she will read your profile or even look at your other pics. And don’t scoff at this guys because we all know that you do the same. We are human and it’s normal to be drawn to someone or not purely because of how they look.

So here are the rules with profile photos:

1 photo of you – make sure it’s you of you right now, close up with natural lighting and nothing covering your eyes, because to a woman this doesn’t help build trust. And don’t forget to smile, statistics show that profile picture with a smile get more engagement

1 photo of a group – group photos helps show you have a social life and are fun plus it doesn’t make your profile seem like you’re too into yourself. Just make sure this isn’t your opening photo as then it becomes a guessing game!

1 photo of you dressed up – women love a man in a nice collared shirt, we think it looks sophisticated and classy. You don’t have to be in a tux, a simple white button up shirt always works a treat!

1- 2 photos showing you being active in a hobby – this is a great way to help communicate who you are and what you like, which will get a girl with similar interests to you wanting to know more. Plus it shows that you are active and fun!

 

#2 Make your bio original

 

Now of course aside from your pics you also need to make your bio interesting. Because after she sees your face she will then want to know a little about you.

The first rule is to not lie about your age or open up with a cheesy one-liner. Keep it short and simple but make sure it has something to laugh about in there. Humour, intelligence, and originality will set you apart from every other man out there.

Your bio should be a brief idea of who you are, what you like and what you’re looking for. No one needs to know your life history or needs to be lectured. Play it cool, but don’t take yourself too seriously.

They work because they have humor behind them and aren’t too full on or serious!

#1 Initiate a date straight away

 

And lastly, if you want to really get ahead of the crowd, then initiate a conversation straight away. Don’t wait to say hello and introduce yourself, step up and send her that message.

But make sure it’s more than a one worded conversation like “hey” …. crickets**

If you’re stuck for conversation then all you need to do is follow the following flow:

Introduce with confidence  – Hey’s what’s up ….as opposed to Hi my name is Rob, it’s great to meet you! ..are going to get two different responses. Own who you are and stand up!

Compliment – Telling her she’s hot…or has a great body as opposed to saying “You have a great smile, or your eyes are quite stunning are again sending two different messages – If you are complimenting stay away from anything overly sexual, make her feel beautiful not hot!

Ask Questions – get the flow going and try to get to know her straight away , show your interest. If you are stuck for conversation then download our cheat sheet, but the general rule is to ask about her day, interests, friends and what she likes!

Keep it casual and light

If you start going hardcore  like ”I think you are really full of soul and I feel a connection and I would love to discover how we can really get to know each other intimately“ ….as opposed to “You’re fun to talk to, this has seriously made my day “ ….again two different reactions. The goal with any woman on any first encounter or date is simple: MAKE HER LAUGH AND FEEL SAFE.

Ask her out!

Be bold and ask her out.  Take control and start to lead her straight from the get-go.

You want to get in before the other chaps she’s speaking to, so be the one to actually start to organize a real date or drinks.

There’s no point just spending weeks chatting, get her number and go out on a date and get to know the girl in person.

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Other men don’t have to be your competition if you know how to set yourself apart right from the start. And all of the above is easy and achievable ways to do it.

But if you need help with knowing how to talk to a woman either in person or on a dating app then download our free conversation cheat sheet by clicking on the image on the bottom, right now!

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Signs She Is Using You

Are you sure a girl is being true to you? Here are some signs she is using you…

No one wants to date a time waster or someone who isn’t who they really are.

So how can you be sure the girl you are dating isn’t just putting on an act?
How do you know if she is putting on a façade just to please you?
And are you sure that you won’t get surprised later on when the real her comes out?!

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SIGNS SHE IS USING YOU
Is she being Real or is she Playing you?!

 

Let’s talk about FAKE women, the ones who seem to change as soon as you commit to them! If you have ever dated a girl who seems happy, flirty and amazing in the beginning and then changes later on after a few months , then you will want to stay to watch this entire video ….because I’m going to give you some awesome tips on how to identify those types of girls and make sure you don’t get caught out! So make sure you subscribe now and give us a big thumbs up!

One of the reasons I wanted to do this video was because I asked over 1200 men what they wanted me to talk about and this is the one thing that keeps coming up!

So, here are my tips to being able to identify if she is the real deal or an imposter!

 

TAKE YOUR TIME TO KNOW HER REAL DEFAULT BEHAVIOR

 

There are two types of female simple behaviors when it comes to relating to men :

1: When they want something from you
2: When they don’t want something from you

If you think you know someone after a few dates let alone 2 months you are wrong! And, just because you’ve gotten to third base still doesn’t mean you know her.

When a woman first meets you she will be smiley, feminine and flirty, but that’s because she wants something from you. Problem is, you think that’s her normal default character, so when she gets what she wants which might be marriage or babies, she then switches to her normal default behavior which could be totally the opposite, hence feeling like you have gotten two different women!

The only way to get to know someone’s true intentions and character is over time.

Don’t feel that just because you are the man you have to rush into making her feel in a secure relationship, you have every right to take your time and also get to know who you are committing too.  

If she’s pressuring you to speed things up then you have to ask yourself why and if she seems too good to be true ( because the real ones will have some flaws but still be a good woman) then she probably is!

 

SEE HER IN DIFFERENT SCENARIOS

 

The best way to get to know someone’s character and intentions is to look at who they hang with, how they respond and what they are consistent in.

If you really want to get to know a girl for who she is and not who she pretends to be, then date her in different circumstances.

Don’t just go on dinner and drink dates, see how she responds when you do things that you enjoy (like a baseball game or hang with your mates) does she put on an act even though you can tell she doesn’t like it?

Does she turn into a yes girl even though you saw her tell her friends she hates sport?

Does she complain or act like high maintenance when she doesn’t get her way? or is she flexible, gracious and know how to see the positive in each situation.

Someone who has a hidden agenda or only wants something from you will usually be more high maintenance and demanding. Which leads me to my next point…

 

TEST HER

 

This isn’t about playing games, but rather getting to know who she really is. One way to test her is to ask contradicting questions to see if she just agrees with whatever you say. Then call her out on it!

If she has a wishy-washy doormat answer every time then you can guarantee that she is just trying to please you to earn brownie points.

Ask her questions which you might already know the answer to eg: if she watched the game and if she said yes, asked her who won…to see if she is telling the truth or not.

Guys, a woman who doesn’t always agree with you doesn’t mean she’s high maintenance, it means she is being real and isn’t afraid to say it. Plus, you guys like a bit of a challenge, right?

 

DOES SHE HAVE HER OWN PURPOSE?

 

A woman who doesn’t have her own thing going on will automatically make you her focus. This means she will start to do what she thinks you want her to do and probably start to lose her own identity.

If you want a real woman, then a big sign she is one is that her life won’t stop when she meets you! She won’t put you on a pedestal and still have her own career, friendships, hobbies and goals because she loves what she is creating and isn’t trying to live for a man!

 

WHO ARE HER FRIENDS?

 

You can tell a lot about someone by who they associate with. Are her friends fake and opinionated or are they genuine and nice? People become a product of their environment, so make sure her crowd is full of decent women who have their own thing going on and not just a girl gang who are hunting down men.

 

LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAYS

 

If you really want to know if she is real or not then take note of what she talks about. Is she always talking about just being in a relationship? Does she often compare you and her to her friend’s relationships?  Does she say one thing and then do something the complete opposite?

Women who are focused solely on having a relationship will often talk about it more than they need too. There will also be some insecurity and be constantly trying to prove to you that they are the right girl.

 

Guys, it’s a tough game out there sometimes because some women can be really good at hiding the real them, so if you haven’t had any luck then do yourself a favor and attend one of our Bootcamps or intensive workshops.

In the meantime make sure you download our free conversation cheat sheet. This will help you know exactly what to say and when to say it so that you can help work out which girl is worth perusing!

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You get:

  • Our top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

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I’m Renee Slanksy for The Attractive Man and I’ll see you in my next video!

Bye for now!

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How to Deal with Rejection

When it happens, you’re not actually dying. But it sure as hell feels like it. I’m talking about REJECTION. And that’s what we’ll be talking about today: How to deal with rejection.

Yeah, rejection sucks. It feels like a visceral gut-punch straight to your confidence. It can knock a guy out for days (even weeks) and make him swear to a life of celibacy just to never experience it again…

But today, I will show you how to stop being afraid of rejection – and instead – use it to your advantage.

That’s right, you can turn rejection into your most attractive “asset” and we’ll show you how in today’s video:

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HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

 

It’s inevitable. It happens.

But, it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. Often times, we allow rejection to dictate how we see ourselves and how we feel about ourselves. In some cases, we get angered by rejection and lash out at the individual rejecting us. Neither of these options is a healthy or viable solution. Today I’m going to discuss how you can stop identifying rejection as a negative occurrence, what to do when you get rejected, and how to remain positive about dating no matter what.

 

Stop Assigning Blame

  • Cognitive Distortionsthoughts that cause individuals to perceive reality inaccurately. According to the cognitive model of Beck, a negative outlook on reality sometimes called negative schemas (or schemata), is a factor in symptoms of emotional dysfunction and poorer subjective well being. Specifically, negative thinking patterns cause negative emotions.
    • During difficult circumstances, these distorted thoughts can contribute to an overall negative outlook on the world and a depressive or anxious mental state.
  • You” were not rejected – here’s why: your actions were rejected. You as a person are much more than your actions. Therefore, you as a total person were not rejected. Don’t think of it as “you” as a whole being rejected, rather, it was your actions that were rejected.
  • Stop generalizing (ex. X event “always” happens to me)

 

You Are Never Guaranteed A Yes (Nor Are You Entitled To It)

  • Rejection doesn’t mean anyone is at fault
  • Rejection says nothing about your value as a person
  • Every experience is different, what worked with one person may not work with another/ One size does NOT fit all

 

Think of Rejection As An Opportunity

  • Stop obsessing over rejection
  • Rejection means you still have opportunities to grow
  • When one tactic does not work, it is a chance to get creative and try new things

 

What To Do After You Get Rejected

  • Thank the other person for their time
  • Spend time with people that bring out your best self
  • Stop the self-criticizing/negative feelings/voices before they can start
  • Do something that makes you happy/feel good about yourself
  • Some things you can do to help you overcome rejection

 

At the end of the day, rejection is inevitable. Whether it’s in business, personal life, or relationships, you will experience rejection at some point. What’s important to remember is that it doesn’t mean your world is ending. It’s simply a part of life and one that you are fully capable of overcoming.

If you need even more help, try the rejection exercise. In this exercise, participants specifically aim to get rejected. Maybe this is by going to Starbucks and asking for a discount.

The point of this exercise is putting yourself is low-risk situations where you get rejected but desensitize yourself to the experience of being rejected. This way, being rejected doesn’t have to be the enemy. You’ll learn to get out of your head when speaking to a woman because you won’t be so terrified of being turned down.

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How to CRUSH your FEAR of APPROACHING WOMEN

You can’t keep running from your fears, man. The first step is usually the hardest. It’s time to CRUSH that FEAR of approaching women!

Taking away the fear and anxiety will give you that powerful confidence boost. Never be afraid to approach women again with these 3 ways to eliminate approach anxiety:

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How to get girls if you’re UGLY…

Hey guys! Not gifted in the looks department? Don’t worry.

The belief that men need good LOOKS to get girls is complete B.S.

The REALITY of it is, most girls don’t even put looks ON TOP of their criteria list.

In today’s Wing Girl Wisdom, I’ll show you how to get girls if you are ugly! (Or to put it better, less than average looking.)

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How To GET GIRLS If You’re UGLY

Have you ever wondered how much easier your life would be if you had that six pack? If you had a chiseled jawline or you could add a couple of inches to your height? Imagine all the chicks you could get with a physique like that… Now get rid of all those fantasies and read on to find out how an average guy like you can score the girl of your dreams without any of those things.

So, you didn’t win the genetic lottery. That’s okay. The reality of it is, the majority of girls don’t put “looks” at the top of their criteria list anyways. Someone can transform from just “OK looking” to “pretty cute” just based on their personality.

The main reason behind this is because evolutionarily speaking, women are attracted to particular characteristics, that will promote the development of healthy offspring. Having good looks is one way to advertise your good genes, but there are many others.

For instance, one of my first relationships was with a guy who was, according to society’s standards, not attractive. He was a little chubby and was quite a bit shorter than me to the point where I had to be careful not to wear heels that would make me significantly taller than him. Some of my friends who didn’t know him too well would question why I was dating him, but the truth is, he had other characteristics that made him desirable which ultimately, diminished the importance of his looks.

Now don’t get me wrong, looks matter, but it isn’t the most important trait when women search for a mate. Personality has a much higher effect on how women will perceive a man as opposed to how a man will understand women. In other words: women care less about looks than men do. That being said, the key here is accentuating the internal characteristics that you CAN change as opposed to just focusing on your unchangeable external characteristics.

So now you might be wondering: “Jackie, what are the most important qualities that women seek out?”. Don’t worry; I’m going to countdown the top 5 qualities you need to master, to become irresistible, regardless of your looks.

 

5 QUALITIES

Physical characteristics you can change

Starting with the basics, you guys need to look at the physical attributes that you actually can change. Things like facial structure, height, and body build are not things you can alter, but there are some easy fixes for some other physical characteristics.

If you have yellow teeth, get some whitening strips. Or if that’s too expensive, look up a concoction that will help whiten your teeth for cheap. If you have acne, buy an acne treatment or look into the cause of it to eliminate it. Make sure your hygiene is up to date, so you don’t smell like a trashcan. Lastly, look into your style. If you are still wearing the same clothes you graduated high school with, then good news; you’ve found the root of your dating problems. Look up some fashion bloggers or watch some fashion videos (we have some of this channel) that will help you look more mature and put together.

 

Develop a Deep Strong Voice

The next characteristic that you need to focus on is developing a deep, loud voice. This is one of the simplest things you can do to make you more desired by women.

It’s found that women prefer lower pitched voices whereas higher pitched voices are preferred for males. This has to do with the fact that a low voice is caused by higher levels of testosterone (male hormone) whereas a high sound is produced by higher levels of estrogen (female hormone). It is this masculine-feminine polarity that brings the two sides of the spectrum together. Therefore, if you fail to develop a strong, confident voice, it may subconsciously signal to her that you are weak, more feminine, and automatically turn her off.

Additionally, attaining deep, strong voice signals to others that you are more likable and competent. There was a study that took 125 participants and asked them to rate two versions of a voice and express their opinions on a variety of elements such as trustworthiness, intelligence, and dominance. It was found that the majority of the participants favored the deeper voices on all levels. This is why many politicians, news anchors, television hosts, and other television personnel speak in a lower register to be received well by an audience. You can use this information in your own dating life to appear more likable and competent to the girl you are trying to date.

 

Perform Altruistic Behaviors

The next characteristic trait that you must embody is the ability to perform altruistic behaviors. Altruistic behaviors are selfless acts or undertakings that put the welfare of others before one’s own. When I think about an altruistic behavior, my mind immediately goes to Jack from the TV show “This is Us” saving his family from a house fire, and then quickly going back in to save their beloved dog. Now, I’m not saying you guys have to risk your life like that because there are simple things you can do on a daily basis that make you appear more altruistic that are far less dangerous.

For example, opening doors for people, picking up the bill at dinner every once in a while, holding her hand, pulling out her chair, giving her a message… etc. These are things that ideally both parties should do for each other in a relationship; however, they are going to be valued more by a female because it gives the girl a sense of safety when she is with you, and I can speak from experience that security is one of the best feelings you can get when dating a guy.

 

Income

Next, we’re going to talk about money. Yes, you are going to have some income, I mean who wants to date a guy who lives in his parent’s basement? But this is usually where guys get it wrong. You don’t have to be Daddy Warbucks or the next Bill Gates to score a high-quality girl. For some reason, guys think that having a plethora of money is going to solve all of their dating problems and that chicks will just flock to them, but the reality of it is, you can be the wealthiest man in the world but if you have a shitty personality, we’re not going to date you.

The key here is having enough income so that you can provide for yourself, your girl, and possibly a potential family in the future. This is important because a girl wants to feel secure in a relationship. If you make some sustainable income, it gives the girl security in knowing that you can contribute to the economic prosperity of your relationship.

 

Work On Your Charisma

The last characteristic I’m going to talk about is charisma. This magic word is something that anyone needs to master to build relationships, but especially for you boys who are lacking in the looks department. Looks fade over time, but no one can deny how someone makes them feel. That being said, work on your social skills, so you get better at communicating with people and winning them over. This is something that the unattractive guy I mentioned at the beginning of the video did well. We could be anywhere, and he could win pretty much anyone over. The key to his charisma was his comical side. Even when we were lost on our way to a party one night, and he was continually making wrong turns, I was still having the time of my life and ended up having more fun in that car ride than I did at the actual party.

If you guys severely lack this category, go out and socialize more to get comfortable talking to people. Go out on the weekends, strike up conversations with strangers when you’re out running errands on the weekdays, or try to make that conversation last a little longer with your waiter or waitress. Nothing comes easily without a bit of practice.

Charisma doesn’t just rely on conversations though, your gestures and emotional expressiveness are essential too. A specific way you can do this is with postural expansiveness, which means expanding the body in a physical space. A researcher looked at people’s choices on online dating apps like Tinder and found that individuals were twice as likely to choose prospective dates whose pictures displayed this postural expansiveness due to the act that these positions communicate high status and rank. This body language technique is easy to master and immediately gives you a more charismatic aura.

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Your approach is the beginning of initiating anything with a woman, hence why it can either seal your fate or open up limitless opportunities.  Master the approach and give a great first impression, while minimizing rejection.

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