Learn How to Get a Girl’s Number and Text Her | The Attractive Man

Do you ever feel that texting girls is a waste of time? Do you even know what to text a girl?

Well here’s the deal; most guys have no idea what to text a girl.

Sure some of them might have game, and they might be able to pull a chick or two at the club, but they totally suck at keeping a girl interested, attracted and wanting them over text. And so the usually don’t see her again.

I don’t want you to be one of those guys.

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The way I see it, if you want the most amount of dates possible, you have to handle yourself in all aspects of the interaction, including “how to text a girl.”

And with the world speeding up and people getting busier and busier with their day-to-day lives, women in particular are relying on texting as their primary form of communication more so than ever.

So why not use that to your advantage?

I’m going to give you examples of what to text a girl you like in the basic escalation points of an interaction, but I don’t want you to just memorize these texts. I want you to really understand the mindset and thinking behind each texting example and work on integrating this while you are texting girls you like.

So let’s get started.


What To Text A Girl The First Time

Now there are two crucial – nay- immutable rules when it comes to the first text that you send a girl.

Rule number 1 – don’t be a bore.

Have you ever wondered what life must be like as a hot girl? Imagine having a whole barrage of men texting you every day, every hour and almost every minute, vying for your attentions and affection.

It can become quite a drag after a while. And there’s nothing worse than guys who are boring. These are the ones that start off text conversations with, “Hey there” or, “How’s your week been so far?” Just don’t be that guy.

Steal this text #1

Instead try something like this:

You: Stop it

 Her: Stop what?

 You: Stop thinking about me 😉

The great thing about this type of text is that it’s short, requires minimum commitment from her to reply and gets her curious.

Rule number 2 – Don’t send her an essay

One of the biggest mistakes that a lot of guys make when texting a girl they like is that they start over thinking things. And sometimes they end up sending long and drawn out texts that they’ve spent the last hour tweaking. Most of these get ignored.

Steal this text #2

Keep it short and keep it interesting, like this:

You: I think you gave me cooties the other day… 

Text like these are great because they’re short and they usually get a girl laughing which sets a great tone for the rest of the texteraction (yeah I just coined that).


What To Text A Girl To Build Comfort

Have you ever been talking to a girl over text and she’s been responding enthusiastically…only to suddenly reduce her response frequency?

Was it that you weren’t funny or interesting enough? Not really. In most cases this is because guys forget that even over text you need to make your conversation about you and her.

Funny texting openers are great and all, but sooner or later you have to steer the conversation towards you and her. Otherwise things just get boring and she won’t feel a connection.

Steal this text #3

Once I was texting a girl who said that she was really into rock music, which I dug. So I sent her this:

You: Imagine we’re at a Guns N Roses gig together. What are you wearing?

You see, at the end of the day even over text you have to be able to carry a normal conversation to build comfort. And sometimes doing this is as simple as paying attention to the little details of what a woman tells you.


What To Text A Girl To Build/Reignite Attraction

Here’s the thing, if a girl has already given you her number it’s fairly safe to assume that she’s at least mildly into you or curious about you.

But, that doesn’t mean your work is done. In a lot of instances a girl could be in an entirely different mindset compared to when she first gave you her number.

Steal this text #4

One of the best ways to reignite and build attraction is through call-back humor. For example, sometimes when I get a girl’s number I’ll save her number as “Smurfette” on my phone and then call her then and there and save my own number as “Smurf Daddy” on hers. And when I text her I send something like this:

You: Hello Smurfette, I heard that you’ve been very bad. No giggleberries for you today.

The awesome thing about using call-back humor in this way is that it gets a girl laughing and it also pulls her back into the mindset that she was in when she found you attractive enough to give you her number.

Steal this text #5

Now this tip’s going to be like the Holy Grail of texting knowledge in your arsenal. Ready for it? One of the quickest and most powerful ways to build attraction is to notice things in a woman that other guys don’t. For example:

You: You know I forgot to tell you the other day, I find it incredibly cute the way you play with your hair every time you laugh.

What I love about these types of texts is that they show that you notice things about her that make her her, and also makes your intentions very clear.


How To Text A Girl To Setup A Date

Now here’s the thing, it doesn’t matter if you two are vibing like Simon and Garfunkel over text, sooner or later you’re going to have to take the initiative and move things into real life. Or else you’re just going to start hearing from her less and less over time, or even worse be relegated to the dreaded “text-buddy-zone,” which is harder to get out of than the friend-zone.

Setting up a date over text is not very different from setting up a date in real life. Especially if it’s a first date. You see, the problem with texts like, “Let’s hang out” or “Wanna grab coffee?” is that they’re utterly boring. So instead of the logistical details of a date you should help paint a picture in a girl’s mind. For example:

Steal this text #6

You: There’s this awesome hole-in-the-wall restaurant I found that I’d like to take you to. We can sneak in our own cheap wine, get mildly drunk, and if all goes well we’ll finish the night with a tongue wrestling match…to the death.

 Or

Steal this text #7

You: What is your schedule Friday night?

Me: I should be free, what’s up?

You: OK, I need a partner in crime. I’ll pick you up at 7. There’ll be good music and cheap booze. Maybe a drunken nun or two.

These type of texts are especially great when it’s obvious that a girl is very much into you and has been trying to setup a date herself. Setting up a date this way keeps things exciting and mysterious, the two main ingredients for a great seduction.  


What Text A Girl To Introduce A Sexual Vibe

One of the things that I love about texting girls is that most girls are far more adventurous and bold when talking on text than they are in real life. Which is why it’s a great way to introduce a sexual element to your texting interaction.

Steal this text #8

You: I’ll bet you a think that I’m a better kisser than you.

 

Steal this text #9

You: Baby-dolls or corsets? I’m trying to decide on which to picture you in.

The trick here is to keep things light and fun, while introducing a sexual element to your conversations. Girl’s are incredibly attracted to guys who are unashamed about their sexuality and unabashed about their desires.


What To Text A Girl After The Date

Sometimes what you text a girl right after your date is almost as important as what you text her before; especially if you want to pursue something more long-term with her.

Steal this text #10

You: That’s probably the most fun I’ve had all week. Try not to think about me too much until I see you again :).

These type of texts can be used to get a girl thinking about you and excited about when she’ll get to see you again. Couple this with a day or two of little to no texting and trust me, she’ll be dying to see you again!

So there you have it, 10 texts that should help you get a few dates by themselves alone, and a whole lot more if you actually understand and internalize the thinking behind them. So go use them in good health and for God’s sake, come up with some great ones of your own!

 

 

Matt Artisan
Intl. Dating Coach & Founder @ The Attractive Man LLC
Matt Artisan is considered one of the World’s Top Dating & Attraction Coaches.

For the last 5 years Matt has personally conducted Live Trainings and Workshops in over 36 countries, helping thousands of men all of the world build confidence and succeed with women.

He has been interviewed by ABC and featured on MTV.
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