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Best Pick Up Lines That Never Get Rejected

What are the best pick up lines? There are many ways you can open a conversation with her…

  • But what can you say that makes you stand out from all the other guys?
  • What can you say that sparks attraction?
  • And what can you say that will never get you rejected?

Well, in this video I’ll show you 3 openers that have been proven to get good reactions from women. I’ll even explain the psychology as to why these are rejection-proof.

The Best Pick Up Lines That Never Get Rejected

One time I walked up to a woman and said the worst pick up line you can think of: “Hey do you like squirrels? Because I’m going to nut in your hole!”

Yeah, it was pretty BAD. I did this only because it was a dare. But the woman responded with “I love squirrels,” and I asked “Why didn’t you slap me?” that’s when she replied: “Because I could tell you are just having fun. Now, please don’t use that line. But that was a huge “ah-ha!” moment for me.

If you have a fun energy, a positive vibe, and are feeling great about yourself just about anything can work.

Here’s how to flirt with women using my 3 best pick up lines that never get rejected:

“Hi, you seem fun and friendly, so I thought I’d come over and say hi.”

Simply say this if you’re afraid of rejection on your first approach.

This may seem like nothing. But it uses a psychological principle called “Planting an identity.” Basically, you’re putting into her mind that you perceive her as being friendly. Thus she’ll naturally be friendly towards you.

The chances that she will give you a bad reaction and act rude when you tell her she seems friendly is pretty slim. I mean it can happen, but why would you even want to keep talking to a girl like that anyway?

“I noticed that you and I are like the hottest people in here so I figured we should at least meet.”

This works great in a bar or club. Because it’s fun and playful, and it creates a “Us vs. them” frame where you and she are the coolest hottest people in the club. How could any girls say no to that scenario?

“I just saw you in the distance, and I thought you were absolutely stunning and wanted to at least say hi”

This works great during the daytime because women are busy and it cuts right to the chase. And it uses the Law of reciprocity. Because you are likely going to make her feel good with such a bold and genuine compliment. She will want to reciprocate by at least listening to what you have to say next.

All of these openers buy you a few seconds of time. What’s really important is what comes after the opener.

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  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
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How to talk to women

How To Talk To Women And Have Deeper Conversations

Have you ever had a hard time learning how to talk to women? Are you always running out of things to talk about when meeting someone new?

We all know starting a conversation with a complete stranger can be intimidating. As we walk over, sometimes our minds go blank unsure of what to say.

Today, I’m going to share a powerful technique that teaches you not only how to talk to women, but it’s something that you can use to spark a conversation and build massive rapport with anyone.

How To Talk To Women: The F.O.R.D. Method

The FORD Method is a great way to start strong when getting to master how to talk to women that you’ve just met.

An easy way to remember this technique is using the acronym F-O-R-D which, stands for:





The conversation possibilities from these four categories are endless. Just be sure to ask open-ended questions and avoid questions that can be answered with a yes or no.

Use their answers, and the tips I went over last week to build on the conversation. You can check last week’s post by clicking here.

Here are some example questions you can ask, and breakdown of each topic.


Family, how to talk to women

  • What is your family like?
  • What was it like growing up as a kid?
  • Do you have any siblings? And then a follow-up question. If she does have siblings, you can ask her what her siblings are like. If she doesn’t, you can ask do you ever wish you did.

Studies have shown that when people share family-related matters with strangers, they feel closer to them. You’ll have to keep that in mind when knowing how to talk to women. After all, you usually only share personal information with close friends.

The challenge, however, is that asking about family upfront can sometimes come off too strong.

What you want to do instead is branch the conversation in a way that family naturally comes up.

There are two ways you can do this.

One, you can talk about your family first.

For example, when I was recently talking to a girl, I mentioned how I was excited to see my little sister over the holidays. I then asked if she had any siblings, which she didn’t. I then asked if she ever wishes she had some, which lead the conversation towards the family.

The second way is by making assumptions about her. Next time you talk to a girl you could say, “You look like you come from a big family.”

Whether your right or wrong doesn’t matter, making assumptions is a great way to create a sense of curiosity and spark a conversation.

She’ll either wonder why you think she comes from a big family or corrects your statement. Either way, you’re now on the topic of family.


Jobs, how to talk to women

  • How’s your job going?
  • How did you get into your field?
  • What are your career plans?

Our work makes up a big portion of our lives and is probably one of the most used conversation starters. Because of that, it’s the easiest topic out of the four to start with.

The trick about making this topic work is not to dwell on the surface level conversation.

Let’s say you’re on a date and ask her, “What do you do for a living?”. “I’m a school teacher,” she says.

Most guys make the mistake of staying on the surface level asking questions like, “What subject do you teach?”, “What grade?”, “What school?”.

Instead, I recommend you move to deeper topics.

The way to do that is by getting to the root motivation and emotions for becoming a teacher. You could ask her, “What inspired you to become a teacher?”. You could also comment how “It must feel incredible knowing you’re making an impact on these children at such a pivotal time in their life.”

See how this can lead to a deeper conversation than asking, “What subject do you teach?


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  • What do you do for fun?
  • What do you like to do that brings a smile to your face?
  • Any vacations planned for next year?
  • Are you into any pro sports? What’s your favorite team?

Everyone has some sort of hobby, interest, and passion. When getting to know how to talk to women, it’s important to talk about interests.

Like the occupation questions, avoid sticking to surface level topics. Instead, jump into the deep end by focusing on motivation and emotions.

A great way to segue from occupation to recreation is by asking, “What do you like to do when you’re not working?

The best mentality to have on this topic is wondering, “Why is this activity so exciting for this person?

Chances are, the person you’re talking to has a hobby that you may know nothing about.

Maybe they love rock climbing, but you’ve never been. You could say, “Oh that’s cool. I’ve always thought rock climbing was an interesting sport. Why do you like it so much?

Following up with questions like this allow the other person to dive deeper into their hobby and explain why they love it.

As Dale Carnegie says in his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, “It’s better to be interested than interesting.”


Dreams, how to talk to women

  • What did you want to be when you were a kid?
  • If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?
  • What do you think you’ll be doing in five years?
  • What’s your favorite place to visit?
  • What’s the most exciting thing on your bucket list?

This is one of the most powerful topics you can talk to someone about.

Unfortunately, most people are told to take the “safe” route instead of pursuing their dreams.

If you’re one of the few people that actually brings up and supports their dream, the other person will think very fondly of you.

This is usually the last of the four topics I bring up. Most people are sensitive when discussing their dreams since they are so used to people focusing on why it can’t happen.

Because of this, be sure to build up a good amount of rapport, from the other three topics, so you can get truly meaningful responses to dream questions.

Again, just like the previous two topics, get into deeper level conversations. Focus on the motivation and emotions associated with their response. You’re getting to understand how to talk to women. And you’ll definitely have an easier time establishing rapport.

Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept)

  1. Beginners: Memorize one question for each section and make 3 approaches with the focus of using the FORD method to build comfort. The goal would be to touch all four topics using the questions you memorized.
  2. Advanced: Same as beginners, but 6 approaches. They only count if you can get through the entire FORD method.

Alright, guys, that’s how to talk to women and have deeper conversations. Using the FORD method!

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How To Talk To Girls & Spark Attraction

Want to learn how to talk to girls in a way that consistently sparks attraction? Discover the secrets to meeting gorgeous women and making them yours!

If you want to learn how to talk to girls in a way that consistently sparks attraction, then you’re in the right place. I’m going to share with you some simple yet effective techniques that will allow you to easily and consistently attract women into your bedroom and your life.

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But first, tell me if this sounds familiar:

You’re hanging out with your friends when out of nowhere appears a drop dead gorgeous girl that makes your heart skip a beat and your stomach flip. “Could this be the one?” You start to imagine what her ass looks like underneath that sundress when suddenly, all the things that you had to say get sucked out of your brain and you’re left completely blank. Before you have the chance to make your move she disappears, never to be seen again…

If you’re nodding your head in agreement and reliving the frustration of missing out on yet another beautiful girl, you’re not alone. After all, most of us aren’t taught how to talk to girls growing up. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way: Learning how to talk to women and consistently spark attraction is a learnable skill, just like any other.

In this article, I’m going to share with you the hardest-hitting, most effective techniques on how to talk to girls in a way that causes an instant magnetic attraction.

Powerful Concepts to Short-Cut Your Results

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You already have enough info about how to talk to women to go out and start setting day 2’s with attractive women right now. Here are some extra tips to help you take your game to the next level.

#1. Opposites Attract

Want to know the key to making her attracted to you?

Show her your masculine side.

For there to be attraction, you need the polarity between the feminine and masculine energy. You see, women are deeply attracted to masculine men. Just as you probably are attracted to very feminine women.

Just like magnets, when you put two positive sides together… they repel. But when you bring two opposite sides together… they attract. So show her your masculine side because she won’t want to sleep with you if you show too much femininity.

That means:

  • Speak loudly and with a powerful low voice
  • Stand up tall and be proud
  • Speak your mind… don’t be afraid to say no to her
  • Lead the interaction and bring her into your world.
  • Have powerful eye contact

I’m not saying to be aggressive towards her, but definitely don’t be a wimp.

#2. Emotion vs. Logic

One common mistake guys make when learning how to talk to women is to communicate logically when they should be communicating emotionally. While logic has its time and place, it’s certainly not the language of seduction. Women respond to emotions. When you’re breaking rapport (i.e., teasing them), you’re spiking emotions of fun and excitement. And when you’re building connection, you’re triggering the emotions of safety, security, and intimacy.

On the contrary, speaking logically has no benefit when it comes to turning on women and making them want to be with you. So communicate emotionally instead when talking to women you’re interested in, and save logic for other areas of your life.

#3. Self-Amusement

Self-amusement is exactly what it sounds like: Using the interaction as an opportunity to amuse yourself. This is key to keeping the conversation fresh and interesting when first learning what to talk about with a woman. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll never run out of things to say! You’ll feel good talking about something that matters to you, and it will attract women like nobody’s business. When you’re interested in or amused by what it is you’re saying or doing, the girl will naturally be interested as well.

Here are a few ways to self-amuse:

  • Talking about things you’re passionate about
  • Debating topics you find interesting
  • Making jokes that you think are funny – whether or not she gets it!
  • Having her do things that amuse you

#4. Qualification

Qualifying a girl is when you test her to make sure she fits certain criteria that are important to you. This demonstrates that you are a man with standards, and it puts her in the position of trying to prove herself to you. Perhaps most importantly, it ensures that the women you’re allowing into your life are the exact types of people you want to surround yourself with.

In order to properly qualify a woman, you first need to take the time to decide what’s important to you in a woman.

  • What personality traits do you value?
  • How do you want her to treat herself and those around her?
  • How do you want her to be sexually?

The more specific you can be with your qualifications, the clearer the image of your ideal woman will be in your head. This will make it easier for you to spot her when you see her, and it will make your qualifications more congruent.

Once you know what you want, you can qualify the girl by simply asking her if she’s the type of person you’re looking for. For example, if I want a girl who will be down to have threesomes with me, I might ask her “Have you ever kissed a girl before?” followed up by “What did you think about it?”.

Hopefully, you’re beginning to see how powerful it is to be the type of man who knows how to talk to women in a way that demonstrates he has standards. Once you’re able to qualify a woman congruently, she’ll be eating out of the palm of your hand.

How to Talk to Girls: From First Sight to First Date


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When first learning how to talk to girls, most guys get caught up on the first hurdle: Initiating conversation. But starting a conversation with a beautiful woman can be as simple as walking up and introducing yourself. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

1.) Approach within 3 seconds – when you see a woman you want to talk to, start talking to her within 3 seconds of seeing her, no matter what. This short-circuits your brains’ ability to come up with excuses, and helps you build a habit of talking to beautiful girls – which is not a bad habit to have! It also conveys confidence, which has long been known to be a major attraction trigger for women.

2.) Open strong – Coming in with a strong opening line can start the interaction off on the right foot. Playful and flirty opening lines can be great. However, there’s no problem with keeping it simple if you’re feeling tongue-tied. Here are some examples of great opening lines:

  • “Have you noticed that you and I are like the hottest/coolest people in this entire place? It’s true, so I figured we have to meet.” Say this one half-jokingly.
  • Hey real quick, this is totally random, but I just saw you over here, and I thought you were absolutely stunning. I had to come over and say ‘hi’.
  • Are you shy? Because I’ve been here for 10 minutes and you haven’t talked to me yet, or flirted with me, or bought me a drink… you must be shy.” Try saying this one in a teasing manner
  • Hi, I don’t believe we’ve met yet. I’m [Your Name].” Say this confidently, with strong eye contact and a warm smile.

Feel free to modify the openers based on the situation, your mood, and your own individual style. And don’t be afraid to try new things! You’re not going to break anything.

3.) Don’t get hung up on the opener! – Believe it or not, the actual words that come out of your mouth when you first meet a woman aren’t all that important, especially when compared to the overall vibe that you’re giving off. Later on, when you have more experience, it’s worth coming back and practicing different kinds of openers. But when you’re first learning to attract women, it’s totally fine to say the first thing that comes to your mind when you first approach her. This will get you in the habit of going for it instead of second-guessing yourself – and developing that killer instinct will get you more women than any pickup line ever could.


Attraction begins before you ever open your mouth or walk up to the girl. She starts deciding whether or not she likes you from the moment she first notices you based on your energy, your body language, and the way you carry yourself. These are all examples of nonverbal attraction triggers – things you do that trigger attraction other than the words you say.

Nonverbal attraction triggers include dominant body language and eye contact, a confident vibe, proper vocal tonality and more. Having dominant nonverbals triggers extreme attraction in women because it congruently indicates that you’re capable of protecting them. This feeling of safety is arousing to women, as they have a biological need for an alpha male who is capable of watching over and protecting them during pregnancy and motherhood. When you see how deeply ingrained this need is in a woman’s biology, it should come as no surprise that a woman can make a decision on your attractiveness based on your nonverbals alone!

As a beginner, the highest-leverage change you can make in your nonverbal attraction game is to work on presenting open, confident body language at all times. Simply standing up straight, keeping eye contact, and smiling is enough to begin to attract women. Also, be sure to keep your hands visible – it will make her feel more at ease in your presence. This type of body language also projects confidence and dominance. Once you nail proper body language, you can build attraction with a woman without even opening your mouth.

You can verbally build attraction through verbal breaks in rapport.

In order to understand breaking rapport, you first need to understand seeking rapport – the strategy that unattractive, low-status men use to try to get women to like them which includes chasing, self-censorship, and supplication. Seeking rapport is a huge turnoff to women because it exposes the man as being insecure, needy, and living in a state of scarcity with women. This is the type of guy that will get “friend-zoned” or ignored completely.

A high-status man, on the other hand, will actively break rapport. This single-handedly differentiates him from the rest of the herd and demonstrates that he’s a confident man who doesn’t need any particular woman because he’s living in a state of abundance. The type of man that can confidently and congruently break rapport is the type of man that women dream about and pursue.

There are many ways that you can verbally break rapport. Let’s focus on one type of rapport break for now: Teasing.

A tease is a playful jab where you imply something funny or “off” about the girl in a joking way. It spikes the energy of the conversation, and when done right, it should feel fun for both you and her. Teasing a girl is absolute gold for getting her attracted to you because it communicates that you’re a confident guy who doesn’t need anything from her.

Here are some examples of teasing:

  • Giving her a funny nickname. For instance, if I meet a girl at the gym, I might start calling her Hercules.
  • Making jokes about her being the type of girl that chases guys. For instance, if she’s checking out a guy in public (or even just looking at someone), I might say “You’re so thirsty! Stop looking so hard; he’s going to notice!” This could even work if the guy she’s looking at is an old man or very unattractive. In fact, it’s even funnier!
  • Making jokes about her being overly sexual. For instance, if she touches me I might say “Woah there, slow down! I’m saving myself for marriage.”

Just keep in mind that all teases should be done in an obviously playful manner. You know you’re teasing properly when the girl laughs, teases you back, or just lights up in general.

However, if she gets offended or hurt by your tease, then you may want to dial back the intensity of your jabs and make it more clear through your body language and facial expressions that you’re just joking around.

Another way to spike attraction verbally is by being a challenge. Most guys don’t challenge beautiful women to be anything other than just beautiful. This shows a lack of experience, which indicates scarcity and is unattractive. A more seasoned man will tend to have higher standards for the women he dates. When you challenge a girl to provide more than just a pretty face and a nice body, you set yourself apart from the rest of the herd. We’ll dive deeper into this topic later in the article, in the section on qualification.


Once she’s laughing and playing into the good vibes, you know you’re on the right track. Now it’s time to build a deeper connection with the girl. Building a connection will make you feel closer to one another, and it gives her more incentive to see you again. Plus, when you learn how to talk to girls in a way that builds comfort – the way that I’m about to show you – it makes setting up a date with her a cinch!

There are many ways to build a connection. For now, let’s focus the basics of relating to the girl.

Relating to the girl is when you and her share things about yourselves that the other can empathize with. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you agree with one another, or that you’ve had had the same experience – in fact, it’s perfectly fine to disagree with the things she says from time to time. Relating is about being vulnerable to one another in a way that builds trust and connection.

When asking questions to relate to the girl, you’ll start with more superficial questions which gradually become deeper and more personal as you get to know one another. You could begin with something like finding out whether or not she likes sushi and end up discovering her secret dream to one day tour as a musician.

Sharing vulnerable things about one another is one of the fastest ways to strengthen the bonds of trust and intimacy within a relationship. This means that the deeper you go, the more invested the girl will be in you and the closer you’ll feel to one another.

To begin leading towards a more vulnerable discussion, you’ll begin with level 1 vulnerability questions – standard get-to-know-you chit-chat – and eventually work your way down to level 3 – deeper, more personal questions.

I’ve also included a list of logistical questions, which will help make setting up dates easier.

Logistical questions:

  •  What kind of food are you into?
  • What do you do to stay fit?
  • What’s something you do for fun that would surprise me?
  • What’s your idea of a good time?

Level 1 questions:

  •   What are you most passionate about?
  • What’s more important to you – money or love? Why?
  • What are you most proud of about yourself?
  • What’s your story?

Level 2 questions:

  •   What’s your biggest regret?
  • If you could do anything in life with no chance of failure, what would it be?
  • What’s your favorite memory?
  • What memory is the most difficult for you?
  • What was your life like growing up?

Level 3 questions:

  •   If we were ever to become very close, what’s something you would want me to know about you?
  • What’s the last thing that brought you to tears? Why?
  • What topics aren’t funny to joke about to you? Why not?
  • What’s your biggest fear?
  • If right now was your last moment on Earth, what would you regret not saying or doing? Why? Why don’t you? What would happen if you did that thing right now?

Asking questions that you care to hear the answer to and really listening is one of the fastest ways to build a deep connection. Its one of the essentials when learning how to talk to girls. Plus, it’s often very enjoyable finding out about the person in front of you and realizing how much they have to offer as a person.


Things are going well for you two. Why not go for a kiss?

kissing a girl

In order to warm her up for the kiss, you’ll want to begin by creating a romantic vibe. Allow yourself to begin feeling the romantic energy in the air between you and her. Feel yourself enjoying that chemistry, and let the desire that you have for her fill your body and mind. This feeling of a sexual vibe is also known as “sexual tension,” and dominant men are pros at holding this tension without flinching. Once you get used to staying grounded in that sexual energy, it feels great. There’s nothing in the world like it.

Once romantic tension starts building, the girl may add to the tension if she’s feeling confident, or giggle to diffuse the tension if she’s feeling submissive or shy. These are both good signs that she’s interested enough in you to kiss you right now. However, if she looks uncomfortable, flinches, or otherwise closes off her body to you, then she may not be ready to kiss you just yet.

Here are some ways to increase romantic tension:

  1. Square up with her, so your bodies are facing one another directly
  2. Close the distance between the two of you until you feel the heat radiating off of her body or are physically touching her
  3. Drop your voice down low. You can also start speaking more softly, enticing her to lean in
  4. Gradually begin slowing… Down… Your rate… Of speech
  5. Making strong, solid eye contact. Allow your eyes to linger on parts of her that especially catch your attention, such as her lips or neck

For the sake of racking up more experience, I recommend attempting to build romantic tension and go for the kiss in all interactions lasting more than a couple of minutes.


So… You already learned how to attract women through teasing, how to build a commonality, and how to vibe and kiss during the interaction. The next step is to set up a day 2. I know I called it a date earlier, but now I want you to erase that word from your vocabulary! You don’t go on dates anymore. Instead, you go on day 2’s.

What’s a day 2? So glad you asked!

A day 2 is like a better version of a date. We call it day 2 instead of a date because traditionally, a date is coming from the frame of the man trying to impress the woman, which is actually detrimental when it comes to attracting women. A date is formal and stiff, whereas a day 2 is fun and light. A date consists of you trying to impress her, whereas a day 2 consists of you both having fun together. You get the idea.

The simplest way to set up your day 2 when first learning how to talk to women is to leverage one of the commonalities you’ve established with her. Let’s go with the sushi example: You found out that you both love sushi. And you happen to know of a new sushi bar opening up in a couple of days. Now, setting up the day 2 is as simple as inviting her to check it out with you. If you’ve done the other steps properly so far, the chances of her being excited to go with you are very high!

This is also the perfect chance to get her phone number. After she agrees to go on the day 2 with you, you can say something like “perfect, give me your number so I can text you if anything changes.

Oh – and in case you were unsure, you don’t need to call it a date or a day 2 to her. Just call it hanging out.

Congrats! You just learned how to approach a random woman and make her a part of your life in one conversation. Remember, the more you practice these techniques, the more effortless it will become not just to, but attract women, too. Eventually, you’ll become proficient enough to know how to talk to women in any given scenario to quickly gain attraction and set up a date.

Where are the best places to meet girls?

There are two categories of places to meet girls. If you want to know how to talk to girls, you need to acquaint yourself with these places. These can be broken up into “day game” and “night game” venues.

Let’s talk a bit about the pros and cons of each, as well as how to modify your approach depending on the environment to attract women with the greatest consistency.

How to Talk to Girls at Nighttime Venues

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Meeting girls at nightlife venues are my top recommendation for those trying to improve their seduction skills. Nightlife venues are high-density, which lets you get a lot of approaches and practice in a short amount of time.

Some good night game venues include:

  • Clubs
  • Bars
  • Lounges
  • Concerts and other events

Night game is often boisterous and fast-paced. Because of this, it helps to take a more physical and high energy approach. This includes being more animated with your body language and facial expressions, projecting your voice, and speaking in short, simple sentences so as to be understood. You can also be much more physical during the nighttime, including leading and breaking rapport physically.

For the night game, I often go indirect, especially if it’s in a venue that I frequent. This means that my opens are social in nature and I don’t convey a special interest in any particular girl off the bat. Indirect openers would include “Hey, how do you know everyone here?” and “Hey, I don’t think I’ve introduced myself yet, I’m [Your Name]. Who are you?” These openers convey that you have friends in the area, which lends you status and social proof.

Once I’ve opened the set, I’ll often dive straight into qualification and leading. During night game, I want to immediately begin screening for girls who are down to get pulled that night, and I tailor my qualifications and leads accordingly.

Here are some examples of qualification and leading for night game:

  •  “Are you adventurous? Oh, really… What’s the craziest thing you’ve done all week?”
  • Say “come with me.” Then take her hand and lead her around the venue, stopping to enjoy cool places like photo booths, the bar, etc.
  • Are you a good dancer?” Then lead her to the dance floor and start dancing with her.

Aside from qualifying and leading, you could also tell a story about a crazy, funny time you had. For night game stories, the more raunchy, crazy, or hilarious the better – as long as they paint you in a flattering light. Think of the moments in your life that could be made into TMZ headlines, and tell stories about that. The mindset to have when telling a story is that you’re sharing with the girl for your own amusement and enjoyment, and NOT trying to impress her or make her like you. After all, if she’s spending any amount of time with you in a night game venue, there’s a high chance that she already does like you.

And remember, if you ever go completely blank, that’s totally fine – night game venues are more physical than verbal, so feel free to simply yell “adventure!”, grab her hand, and lead her to do something physical such as dancing, photo booths, or out the front door of the venue to take her home.

You can also screen for logistics, which allows you to find out about her logistical situation for the evening while moving the conversation forward.

Here are some examples of logistical questions for night game:

  •   “Who are you here with tonight?”
  • “Where do you live / how did you get here tonight?”
  • “What are you doing tomorrow?”

Asking these questions will get you valuable information about her logistics and let you know if there are any obstacles that you’ll need to overcome in order to pull her. Plus, once you have the answer to a logistical question, you can riff on that topic with her, further adding to the conversation.

Social proof – including preselection – is your secret weapon when it comes to the night game. Build social proof by being friendly and welcoming to everyone in the area. Bounce from group to group instead of sticking to one individual, especially earlier on in the night. This allows people to see that you’re a friendly, social guy with an apparently large amount of social clout, which will have the baddies fighting over you by the end of the night.

Having an after party or another excuse to pull at the end of the night can make your pulling logistics a breeze. When the club closes down, people will want to keep the party going. Knowing where the after-party is or hosting it yourself gives you the best chances of pulling a beautiful girl from a nighttime venue.

How to Talk to Girls in the Day Time

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The drawback of day game is that there is usually a smaller volume of people, which means fewer opportunities for you to practice and succeed. However, it can still be worth your time to get experience learning how to talk to girls in different environments. Plus, it’s the main way that you’ll meet women on a day-to-day basis as you’re going about your life.

Some good day game venues include:

  • Art galleries & museums
  • Parks
  • Malls
  • Coffee shops

During day game, people are often busy running to and from work, running errands, or simply going about their day. Because of this, you’ll use time constraints frequently in a day game. For instance, you might open by saying, “I need to meet up with my friend in just a second, but I wanted to come say…?”. This takes the time pressure off the girl, making her more receptive to your approach.

Unlike bars and clubs, daytime settings are not typically designed to meet strangers. Because of this, you will sometimes catch girls off guard when you approach them during the daytime. You can soften this effect by acknowledging the situation and saying something like “this is really random” or “I saw you from down the street and I had to come say hi”.


Compliment First, you compliment the girl on something about her style, appearance, or vibe. This lets her know immediately what your intentions are, which makes getting the number easier.

For example, you might say, “Hey, this is super random… I have to meet my friends in a second, but I wanted to come let you know… You’re absolutely adorable!

You’ll notice that, in addition to a compliment, the above opener also includes a time constraint and an acknowledgment of the situation.

Instead of complimenting her directly, you could also imply the compliment, like so:

Listen, I saw you here, and I had to come over and meet you. Hi, I’m [Your Name]”.

Qualify – Now that you’ve given her a bit of your interest, it’s time to take a step back and make her prove to you that she’s worthy of your continued attention.

You can do this by qualifying her as we discussed earlier.

This will get her to start chasing you, which is a surefire way to turn on a woman.

For example, you could say “tell me something interesting about yourself” or “what’s something you’re passionate about?

Once she answers, you can reward her by letting her know you appreciate her answer, or by relating to the topic with your own experiences.

Then, you can rinse and repeat the qualification process in order to continue finding out if she’s “cool enough” to hang out with you.

Close – Day game approaches offer you the unique opportunity to go on instant dates. This is when you go together from the place you met to a second location such a coffee or ice cream shop. A simple way to transition into an instant date is to say something like, “My favorite ice cream shop is right around the corner, I was about to grab a cone. Come with.

If she’s unable to go on an instant date for whatever reason, you can simply set up a day 2 instead and get her phone number.

How to talk to Girls You Work With

A lot of times I get asked how to talk to girls at work. But in my opinion, the chances of something going wrong with a girl you see at work are too high, and the risk isn’t worth it. Instead of trying to date your co-workers, I would recommend friend zoning them. You could still grab drinks with them and hang out, but hit on their friends instead of them if anything. Being seen with beautiful co-workers that you’ve friend-zoned will attract women from outside of the friend group without jeopardizing your work environment.

Now you’re armed with everything you need to know to go out, approach a beautiful woman on the street, build attraction, set up a date with her, and even build a sexual vibe and kiss her! You definitely now have got all you need to know how to talk to girls. The next step is actually to go out and implement these new strategies. If you want the types of results you’re dreaming about; you’ll need to make a firm commitment to yourself to go out and practice these principles, one at a time until the results are yours.

What unanswered questions do you still have about how to talk to girls? How’d you like the article? Comment below and let me know what you think!

Also, if you’re one of the guys who’s going to take action on this information, leave a comment that includes your city, what venue you’re going to meet girls at this week, and an original tease that you’re going to test out!

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How To Get A Girls Number: 3 Best Ways

You’ve approached the girl, she seems into it, and now you don’t know how to get a girls number from her. Suddenly you start to get nervous. Is it because you don’t know the best approach? Should you try to make her laugh? Just be straightforward about it?

What’s the best way to go for it, so she’s more likely to say yes? Here’s how to get a girls number the right way!

How To Get A Girls Number In 3 Simple Ways

#1 Don’t ask, Command.

The usual blunder…

Most guys ask for her number. Big mistake. That shows a lack of confidence. When you ask, it presupposes the fact that you aren’t sure if she likes you. It tells her that you aren’t sure if she actually wants to give you her number. When you’re being insecure in front of her – that’s going to be a turn-off.


So instead of asking “So…can, I get your number?” display your confidence and assertiveness. Rephrase it as a command like Here, put your number on my phone. That way, you’ll come off as an Alpha male. Not showing any signs of weakness and staying in control.

#2 Make it fun and exciting

Try and get a giggle out of her while you get her number.


What I like to do is this: I tell her: Hey let me see your phone, I’m going to give you my number. Then I go to her SMS app, and I send myself a text: “Hey Matt you are so hot ;)” And sign her name. I’ll just wait a few minutes and text her “aww thanks you are so sweet,” and she will crack up. This is fun, flirty and it works great.

The best part about this is she’s very unlikely to object to you putting your number on her phone. It seems harmless, and she can always just not text you if she doesn’t want to. But presto! You just got her number through the text.


Another funny move is to save your number in her phone and just call your phone, so you have her number. Here I’ll give you my number… and I’ll just call myself, so you have mine.

But actually, pick up the call and use this opportunity to do a funny role play like: “Oh hey mom? Hey, I just met this girl she’s kinda cute, but she’s kind of a dork. I might give her a chance though, we’ll see.”

#3 Go for it like a Boss

If all of this seems too gimmicky or silly for you, here’s how to get a girl’s number like a boss.

How you’re going to do it: BE THE BOSS

Say something like, “You seem cool. Here, you can put your number on my phone.” and remember to stand beside her, so you get in more touching. That way, you’re already breaking the touch barrier even before you get her number.

So try that out, man. And remember to be assertive.  I already know the feminists out there are going to give me shit for saying that, but I’m sticking to it. Asking for permission to have her number shows uncertainty and you should assume that she likes you, unless she communicates otherwise.

Now if you just want to be better with women, we created a “Free Escalation Cheat Sheet” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sexual tension, turn a girl on, and escalate to the bedroom.

It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sexual – “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.

This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl, but it’s going nowhere.

Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level! 

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I’m out! Cheers!