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What To Do When A Girl Looks At You

Do you know exactly what to do when a hot girl looks at you? Lots of guys blow it.

That FIRST GLANCE is crucial for setting the tone. You HAVE to know HOW to react to this situation!

​​Your only chance to seal the deal could SLIP AWAY in a heartbeat. 

So what should you do when a girl looks at you?

That’s exactly what I’ll show you in this video.

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What To Do When A Girl Looks At You

Before we go over what to do, I noticed a lot of pickup artists’ usually recommend you act all aloof and mysterious, like skulking at an area trying to act as if you’re waiting for women to come to you instead.

That doesn’t work very well. If anything, women will find you creepy, and probably stay away from you for good. Seriously, don’t give off a serial killer vibe.

If she looks at you and you are taking your time, it can ruin the mood and can make it seem like you are scared to talk to her. And don’t do the infamous “This drink’s from that guy across the table” – If you’re going to buy her a drink then take it to her yourself!

Now, most of the time when a girl looks at you, that means she’s interested in you, so that’s a great start. All you have to do now is capitalize on the situation.

First: Make Sure to Look Back!

Women love a man of action. Alpha males are what attracts women the most! So take charge and control.

Women usually don’t make the first move, MEN do. She’s looking at you to make sure you get the message.

When you’ve caught her looking at you, look back without hesitation.

  • If she looks away before you get the chance, keep looking back for a few seconds to catch her attention.
  • It’s important that she knows you noticed her.

Looking back can already create sexual tension, and that’s even before any word come out of your mouth!

  • Maintain dominance when looking back. Don’t act all meek and stare at the floor – If she stares back, keep looking at her as if you’re enjoying each other, even before you get near.

Second: Smile

Now that you’ve caught her attention, make sure you smile at her! That’s one of the things that attracts a woman the most. You should check our other article out – it has all you need to know to learn how to attract a girl!

According to research, smiling activates the pleasure sensors in our body almost the same as eating chocolate. Simply looking at someone’s smile literally brightens up your day!

  • A chin up, confident smile is the way to go. It actually gives women comfort and shows that you’re going to be a fun guy to be with.
  • When you’re looking back at her, the moment she notices, give her the best smile you have – one that says “hey, let’s have some fun!”
  • You can also look away and smile for a moment, then look back at her. This draws a certain allure and mystery while at the same time acknowledging that you’re going to approach her and would love to know her better. 

Here are also some things you should not do:

  • Avoid a creepy nodding smile or cheesy smirk.
  • And please don’t frown thinking it’s cool to feel entitled. Women hate that.
  • Don’t try too much to force a smile either, just relax, make sure it comes naturally as if you appreciate her looking at you and you’re enjoying every moment.

A good way to know your perfect smile is to practice in front of the mirror every day – go ahead, it actually helps!

Third: Establish Powerful Eye Contact

Confidence dictates control. When you look at a woman, always try to maintain eye contact even before the conversation starts!

  • Check her reaction, the moment you’ve looked back, and she notices, lock eyes immediately.
  • Keep at it if she’s doing the same, it’s actually a very enjoyable stare-down especially after you’ve thrown the perfect smile at her.

If she looks away quickly, that means one of three things – she got creeped out, OR she’s the shy type, OR she’s playing hard to get. Yes, women do these all the time. Whatever the reason, you shouldn’t give up.

  • If you think she’s the shy type, then give her enough time to adjust, turn it down a notch, but don’t wait too long to approach, or you’ll lose your chance!
  • If you think she’s playing hard to get, then, by all means, keep the confidence up and take control.

Remember to focus on her eyes; it can be a turn-off and unclassy to stare at her body rather than her face.

And Finally: Approach Her

Taking the previous tips into consideration, approaching her is the best part.

Remember guys, a woman looking at you is an invitation. Women don’t make the move, MEN do. Instinctively, women go for the aggressive and assertive man, because that’s exactly what they look for in males – security, and if you’re sloppy and slow, that looks like a weakness and a turn-off. When women throw out the signal, men who make the move are instantly more attractive.

Remember that

  • Body movements are important, walking tall, with a straight back and your head up.
  • No slouching or looking at the ground.
  • Keep the eye contact when established.

Open the conversation right

Now, you probably already have that girl all excited even before you started talking to her. And that’s great! When you approach her to make sure you keep that confidence up and start out strong! Here are a few great opening lines:

  • “Hey, I don’t think we’ve met yet, I’m _____.”
  • “You can’t just look at me like that without at least saying hi.”
  • “Hi there, I’m ____ by the way.”

Wing Girl Wisdom: Be a gentleman and always introduce yourself first. And remember, women love compliments. That’s partly the reason we get dressed up and put all our effort into looking good in the first place. Aside from loving to feel pretty ourselves, it’s also to have men appreciate our beauty.

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So remember, An attractive girl looking at you from afar can mean a lot of things. One thing’s for sure, though, be a MAN – give her a look back and make your move – she’ll appreciate that, and you’ll thank me later.

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All of these openers buy you a few seconds of time. What’s really important is what comes after the opener.

I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

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Watch Out For These 6 Dating Red Flags (Know When To Avoid These Women)

Have you ever started dating a girl and get straight BLINDED by the fact that a girl’s so HOT, only to find out weeks later that she’s CRAZY as f*ck?

Most of us, if we haven’t seen them before, are oblivious to RED FLAGS that could save us weeks or even MONTHS of torture.

In this video, Duke reveals 6 RED FLAGS that signal you to step on the brakes. So before you go to the POINT OF NO RETURN, check out these LIFE-SAVING tips on dating and relationships!

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6 Dating Red Flags

I’m going to tell you about my buddy who, like most guys, couldn’t tell if a girl was crazy or not until it was too late. Also If you’re new here, make sure to subscribe and click the bell, so you don’t miss out when we release new content.

A few years back, I had a buddy – a tall, good-looking Croatian guy – who came to me for help. I got him approaching girls on his college campus and in local bars, and in a few weeks, he started lining up dates. Excited with his newfound skills, he started dating a whole bunch of girls, but he began to continually get into situations where girls would flip out on him, misinterpret his messages, and string him along.

One whole summer, he dated a bunch of girls who would just give him dramatic moment after dramatic moment — one, in particular, would CONSTANTLY nag him to find out where he was at, and flip out when he wasn’t instantly available. EXASPERATED, he told me; WHAT’S THE POINT OF DATING GIRLS IF I CAN’T FIND ONE THAT FITS?

Just because she’s hot, doesn’t mean she’s compatible with you. That’s an important word; Compatible. Before you start investing a considerable amount of time with a girl, you want to make sure she’s qualified!

What’s the purpose of Dating?

  • Dating is QUALIFICATION for her fitness in your future (and vice versa)
    • You qualify for status (husband/wifey boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.)
    • You qualify for sexual compatibility
    • You qualify for values and standards

Relationship goals vary, but you can future-proof whatever your goals are by looking out for these red flags. Have you ever dated someone and thought, after the fact… WTF was I thinking?

Why do we do this to ourselves? We don’t pay attention… that is, we’re not MINDFUL when our brains are overtaken by her beauty. There’s a couple of reasons for this;

Love is blind during the Infatuation/Honeymoon stage.

There’s always that stage where everything seems perfect, and that’s always what happens in the first part of the relationship. Because we get all that hits of dopamine and serotonin in our system the first time we get with her, the body perceives everything as joy and reward – oblivious to any wrong that may come your way. When the initial phase fades, and all the hormones are back on track, you get shocked when you realize everything was all a dream and that’s she’s actually one crazy person!

Your own boundaries are too fluid/ You’ll take anything/You don’t have standards.

Now I want you to get this because it’s SO VITAL to do so you don’t settle for less than what you want in a partner. You’ll end up living a miserable life.

The Red Flags in Dating

Here are some signs to watch out for, with specific examples. After I list these, I’ll tell you how to make SURE you’re reading the signs right, so you never have a question whether to see this relationship play out or to cut the cord early and save some time.

  • They Have An External Locus Of Control
    That is; they blame the outside environment, circumstance, or other people for the results (positive or negative) in their lives.
    – She justifies being Overdramatic
    – She talks badly about her exes
    – She blames you for her mood or emotions.
  • Their Social Group’s Values Aren’t Similar To Your Own
    – You think her friends are tools
    – Her friends think SHE’S a tool
  • They Act Entitled To Their Requests
    – She treats waiters badly
    – She makes you do all the work.
    – She’s unappreciative
    -She never says thank you
    -She has stories of how ungrateful she is of other people’s generosity
  • You Two Are Incompatible
    – You guys argue all the damn time
    – You don’t share core values or life goals
    – She doesn’t seem to admire you or be proud of your mission
    – She doesn’t consider your feedback
    – She tries to convince you she’s not like this most times
    – She doesn’t respect boundaries.
  • They Suck At Relationships In General
    – She has a bad relationship with her family
    – She just broke up with somebody else
    – She has commitment issues.
  • They Play Power Games
    – She’s inflexible
    – She’s violent
    – She’s controlling your time
    – She uses blame, guilt, or punishment to get you to change your behavior
    -She uses sex as a weapon, withholds affection, appreciation, etc.
    -She keeps score, throwing back your offenses or fuckups.

How To Spot Red Flags

Spotting these red flags can be tricky since people are pretty dynamic… but by knowing HOW to read these signs, you can get pretty good at filtering out people who aren’t qualified. If you’re taking notes, write these two tips down, because they make figuring out red flags super simple.

Look for consistent themes, not one-off experiences.

“A sample of one only shows that behavior exists. It’s not sufficient to determine frequency” – Johnny Soporno

Communicate your concerns early.

If you see something that seems out of place, Communicate your concerns early, and gauge reactions with Presence and a Qualification frame of mind.

Remember. Just because she’s HOT doesn’t mean she’s NOT CRAZY. If you’re ever going to be happy with the girl you’re dating you can’t rush into things. You might not know what you’re getting yourself into! Don’t Invest your time, money, and feelings on the wrong girl for you.


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Yup, he breaks down exactly what to say to create a sexual vibe from the beginning and escalate a date quickly.

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How To Flirt With Girls Like George Clooney (Without the Money or Fame)

Okay, look…  George Clooney has a certain charm that drives women crazy, but it’s not just because he is rich, famous, and good looking.

There are tons of rich, famous and good-looking men that don’t have the sex appeal of George Clooney.

So what is it? What does he do differently?

Well, I will break it down in this video…

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How To Flirt With Girls Like George Clooney

George Clooney has many traits a woman is looking for in a classy man. He’s both a badass and a gentleman, and that drives women crazy! He can approach women and have them fall for him effortlessly!

Looking at it from a deeper perspective, it’s not just his fame that landed him in the hearts of millions of women around the world – rather, it’s what he does; the walk, the talk, the mentality of a successful classy Man.

So, what makes Clooney one of the most attractive men on the planet?

#1

His Body Language Emits “Relaxed Confidence”

Body language is what women first see even at a distance and before you speak to her. This is a major factor in creating the first impression, and first impressions are crucial.

What George Clooney’s doing right:

  • He’s not moving fast.
  • He moves with grace.
  • He usually has a smirk on his face, almost as if he’s saying: “I love my life and I bet you’d want to be a part of it!

Take a look at how George Clooney moves. Notice how he has a relaxed swagger about him like everything is going his way. He looks high status, and it’s not just because of his clothes.

This calm, confident body language and expression makes him stand out, and girls notice. 

What men usually do wrong:

  • Looking down while walking
  • Slouching
  • Moving quickly in a jerking motion
  • Fidgeting, scratching, and other unnecessary movements

How to fix it:

Most guys  look down while walking but looking down is an unconscious submissive behavior. And it’s also a sign of being depressed. What you can do is focus on keeping your head up and looking where you’re going.

Another very important part to attractive body language is to slow things down. Don’t move quickly or in a jerky motionFidgeting shows that you’re not grounded while moving calmly has a way of  demonstrating status and confidence. . These might be subtle movements, but women will instinctively notice them.

So from now on, pay attention to how you move. Walk like you own the place. Grab your balls, tell yourself you’re the MAN and MAN UP. Remember, You’re the prize, you’re the guy who’s gonna get the girl!

#2

His Voice Is Damn Sexy

Clooney possesses a great natural control of his “Bedroom voice” -which is a deep, relaxing, yet strong and commanding tone that sets the mood and creates immediate sexual tension when done right.

What George Clooney’s doing right:

  • Speaks clearly and slowly
  • Pauses while talking
  • Uses a low voice
  • Speaking is relaxed and doesn’t feel forced

He speaks in an at ease tone and with a low voice. And in case you don’t know, women are attracted to lower voices. He also slows down his speech, which is similar to what I mentioned about the body language.

What men usually do wrong:

  • Talking too quickly, stuttering
  • Not pausing
  • Trying too hard to imitate another voice
  • Using a higher pitch when ending sentences

How to fix it:

Slowing down your speech and using pauses, creates sexual tension. It’s very powerful and these two things help to set the mood. As I said, women are attracted to lower voices. But don’t try to imitate another voice – because you’ll end up sounding unnatural and you’re going to mess it up.

What you can do is master your own voice with practice. Everyone has their own voice, so make sure you speak clearly, with a lower tone, and pause so you’ll avoid stuttering. Also, when you’re talking too fast, there is no sexual tension, and it sounds like you’re not sure of yourself.

So remember, be conscious of how you speak.

#3

His Eye Contact Is Irresistible To Women

Just by the way he looks at women, he can turn her on and trigger sexual desire. Notice how when Clooney is looking at a girl, it’s like he “wants her” and he knows she wants him.

What George Clooney’s doing right:

  • Maintains strong eye contact
  • Looks at her with desire (and not the creepy way!)
  • Isn’t afraid or intimidated by a girls stare

It’s not just any regular eye contact, it’s sexual eye contact. It’s a look that’s full of power and confidence that can slowly put you in a trance. Like he’s tracing your thoughts and piercing into your soul… GET OUT OF MY HEAD GEORGE CLOONEY!

What men usually do wrong:

  • Release eye contact
  • Looks from one direction to another then goes back to eye contact (the creepy way)
  • Gets intimidated and stares away while talking

How to fix it:

Don’t be afraid to look deep into her eyes. It shows you’re engaged and interested and it creates sexual tension. But you can’t just stare at her bug eyes. Instead, look at her like you know you are going to give her the utmost sexual satisfaction if she’s so lucky.

And here’s a pro tip for you! When maintaining eye contact, look into HER left eye only, don’t switch between the eyes. Just look in one eye, and she will feel you are really connecting with her. Practice in front of the mirror, so you hone this skill.

BONUS: #4

“What If?”

There’s a reason behind why the scene with JLo & Clooney in the movie “Out of Sight” is so seductive.What he says in that clip will make women want to sleep with you fast!

Note how he asks the questions “What if” and talks about not missing life’s opportunities. Specifically the opportunity of running into someone you love. He tells a girl to live life without regrets – and that she should be taking risks.

“What if I had stopped? What if I had said something?”

He’s essentially telling her that she should live in the moment and to not let opportunities pass her… in other words, “The opportunity to be with him.”

I say something similar to a girl before I start escalating sexually. You see, all women have the instinctual nature to be sexual. Their bodies are wired to give them intense and continuous pleasure. However, society and culture have played their part in suppressing these raw emotions. Making women believe that they should conform to what people tell them to – this leads to what we call the “anti-slut defense” that women often have that prevents them from sleeping with a guy even if they want to.

How to break the “anti-slut defense”:

  • Talking about her feeling free and seizing opportunities will show her that you’re not going to judge her for her actions. Women hold back their sexual desires because they don’t want to be judged, they don’t want to be labeled as sluts and shunned by society.
  • Opening up sexual topics in a calm and reassuring way builds trust- and the more she trusts you, the more likely she’s going to sleep with you.

There’s a lot more to George Clooney than just his fame or his looks. He’s an Attractive Man by all standards. We can’t all be a George Clooney, but knowing how he does it can help you boost your own charisma around the ladies.


To help you out with what you need to say, I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.

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Here’s What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her…

Now that you have her number, do you know THE BEST WAY to text her and get a date?

In this video, Nicole reveals how girls actually want you to ask them out on a date.

She’ll also reveal some huge mistakes guys make when it comes to texting.

Make sure you watch the video.

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What She ACTUALLY Wants You To Text Her

Hey, it’s Nicole with The Attractive Man Team, and I’m going to reveal how a girl ACTUALLY wants you to text her and ask her out.  I’m going to be telling you all the do’s and don’ts of texting a girl those first few times after you’ve gotten her number to make sure you don’t send her running away and so you can actually get a date fast.

I’m gonna show you some real-life examples of texts I’ve received and then break them down for you based on the good, AND the bad. Then at the very end, I’ll tell you the absolute BEST way to secure a date!

What Kind of Texts Do Girls HATE?!

I’m gonna show you a few texts that were big fails, so you don’t make the same mistake…

#3. The drunk text/the pointless text

This guy did both, All in one text. A guy’s FIRST text to me was at 4 in the morning. On a Sunday night. And it was nonsense. Just an emoji next to a random letter. Not only was this text completely pointless, but it also woke me up at 4 in the morning. Meaningless texts that say nothing are a waste of everyone’s time and make you seem like you’re not very interesting.

#2. The texts that will get you destroyed in her group texts

These can include anything from excessive emoji/meme usage (are you 12?!) to horrible grammar/spelling, to inappropriate messages or pictures. If your first text to girl includes bad spelling and 15 emojis, it doesn’t matter if you told her she’s the most gorgeous girl in the history of the earth, she’s going to think you’re an idiot.

That might be harsh, but it’s true. And inappropriate texts are not ok when trying to get the first date. You’re going to make her feel creeped out, and she’s not going to give you the time of day. It’s the biggest turn-off. No girl wants this. Look, it’s great you think we’re attractive! And we love to hear it! But just straight up asking for pics from someone that you literally met yesterday comes across as super creepy.

Pro tip: If you really want to see us that bad, make actual plans to do so!

#1. The noncommittal text

If you want to see the biggest collective eye-roll from any group of girls, ask them how they feel about a guy sending the “we should hang out sometime” text.

“We should hang out sometime” translates to “I’m going to make as little effort as possible.” and isn’t going to lead to a date unless that girl is REALLY desperate. Plan a freaking date! A lot of guys seem to have this idea that if you call it a “date” and actually suggest a day and time, it’s suddenly something serious. But any normal girl does NOT think that you’re imagining wedding bells because you called it a date.

If you can’t say anything more than “let’s hang out sometime” you’re going to lose her interest immediately. And let’s face it, there’s always the slight possibility that she may be just gave out her number to be nice. Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she was just super drunk, or maybe she’s not in a place where she wants to date anyone. Being straightforward with your intentions will help weed those types of girls out, so you’re not wasting your time with someone who’s gonna flake anyway.

What Kind Of Texts Do Girls LOVE?!

Moving on to the things that WILL get you a date…

 #3. Unique compliments

It’s amazing how many guys actually forget to flirt via text or don’t know how to do it properly. Before asking her out, it can be a great buffer to send a few flirty texts. You can always send something a little cheesy like “it was great to meet you, I can’t wait to see your pretty face again” or “you’re so beautiful” but, while those are nice and flattering, it sounds like a cookie cutter compliment.

If there’s something specific about us that you liked or ANYthing we did or said that you thought was cute, tell us! Girls eat that shit up. (A guy pointed out how he thought I had a cute sneeze. No one is cute when they sneeze unless you’re a baby panda, but the fact that he said this was really endearing and cute.)

A unique comment or compliment about THAT girl specifically is not only a surefire way to let her know you’re interested, but it also shows that you paid attention to something other than her boobs when you met her, and that really matters!

#2. Actual plans

Okay, the flirting is going well, and you want to ask her out. Even if you left your balls at home that day and can’t bring yourself to call it a date, take control and make real plans with her. (A guy was asking me to drinks where he suggested a location and two-day options. He even picked a place close to me because he remembered I lived on the opposite side of town from him. Good stuff.)

Girls want a guy who is confident and is able to make decisions. If you’re wishy-washy or “I dunno, it’s up to you” then it seems like you’re not confident or not even that interested. Girls love a guy who can take charge and pursue them. Setting the day and location also gives you the freedom to choose a place where you’re in your own element and comfortable.

#1. What’s the number one way to stand outCALL THE GIRL!

I feel like this should come up in a big giant text when I say this!

So I’ve shown you a couple examples of guys who did everything right via text…great flirting, great decision making… but spoiler alert. I didn’t go out with any of them. Why may you ask? They lost out to the one guy who actually had the balls to CALL me to ask me out.

It wasn’t a long conversation; it was very concise “Hey, I really enjoyed meeting you this weekend and would like to see you again. Can I take you out tomorrow night?” He then told me there was a new restaurant he’d been wanting to try, so we should go there. I said yes in a heartbeat!

He displayed a level of confidence and courage that no one else did, without even having to come up with witty flirtatious texts and that was so incredibly attractive! Calling someone is nerve-wracking. Everyone knows that. But even if you hate talking on the phone, and even if SHE hates talking on the phone, or even if you barely had the chance to talk to her when you got her number, a quick call to set up a date will make you seem like you have your shit together and you will stand out every time.

Not all girls will actually answer the phone, especially if you didn’t get a chance to talk much when you met. But that’s okay! It’s totally fine to shoot her a text afterwards because it’s more about the ACT of you calling than the actual phone conversation itself. If she doesn’t answer, texting her after to say why you were calling is totally cool.

That gives her the option to return your call or just text back. If she doesn’t respond then, you’ll know that maybe she’s just not that into you.

Getting a girl’s number is just the first step. If you follow these do’s and don’ts, you’re sure to score an awesome date!


To help you out with what you need to say, I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.

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And if you want us to show you how to meet women personallyclick here to check out the live Bootcamp Schedule.

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How To Create Sexual Tension Immediately

Attraction will make her like you but the sexual tension is what makes her want to have sex with you. Sexual tension is what actually turns her on…

And when you can create sexual tension the moment you first meet, that’s when she’ll get butterflies and start falling for you hard. It’s like a movie moment where time just stops.

So in this video, I’ll show you 5 ways to create sexual tension immediately:

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There are 5 key points to make this work and not come off as creepy. There is a fine line between having a sexual vibe that creates tension and being creepy. And you will want to vary the intensity depending on the situation. 

1. Feeling Sexual in your body

Don’t be afraid of your own your sexuality turn on. Society tells us this is wrong. But fuck society. Social norms are often wrong. Now don’t do this in a work environment or you might get fired. But in a club or even during the day (to a lesser degree) this is really important and will make sure you never land in the friend zone. You can think of a past sexual experience. In fact, think of the best sexual experience you ever had. And guess what, now you are in a more sexual state.

And one way you will convey that is by giving her……

2. The Look of Desire

It’s not just about eye contact. Because you can give strong eye contact that totally creeps her out. Not good. I want you to look at her with Appreciation, appreciating her feminine beauty. Women love to feel desired by a powerful masculine man. She will feel it, and it’s very intoxicating. And I have a friend that is bold in his 40’s and is 5,3” and he is a master at showing his intensity and power through his eyes. And it scored him a lot of tall women who are stunning…

So just Look at her like you know you could give her the utmost sexual satisfaction – if she is lucky. When you have that kind of mentality your whole demeanor shifts.

3. Pausing and Speaking slowly

Another way to amp up the sexual tension is to pause and speak slowly. Especially when you first approach that woman.

You see, a couple things happen during those pauses. Of course, it increases the intensity because she doesn’t know who I am, I’m a random guy on the street I’m around or a random stranger approaching her so of course there’s gonna be some intensity. It creates drama, it creates anticipation, she doesn’t know what I’m gonna say next.

I’m grounding myself. I’m just allowing myself to look at her, and really breathe her in and appreciate her beauty. And she can feel that.

4. Standing close to her

Another really easy way to increase that sexual tension is to stand a little bit closer to her. Now you don’t want to overdo this and stand right in her face because that can seem obviously a little creepy, weird, and even threatening and make her feel unsafe. So what I’m talking about is very subtle.

It’s about an inch or two into her personal space. Her personal space is about arm’s distance away. This is a pretty comfortable distance for two strangers. However, if you just take a little step into her personal space – not too much, like I said about two or three inches max. This will really increase the sexual tension. She will feel your masculine presence even more intensely.

5. Touching and holding her hand longer than normal

Touching can be very arousing as it increases oxytocin, a hormone that’s also experienced during orgasm, but if you do it too much too soon if you escalate too quickly or touch her in inappropriate places, that can completely kill the interaction.

So, I recommend start small and work your way up. In a club type environment, you can escalate a little bit quicker. You can go really close to her, maybe touch her on the small of her back, and say something into her ear because it’s so loud.

So what can you do to use touch to increase sexual tension during the daytime? It’s very simple: Shaking her hand.

First of all, you must shake her hand like a man. That doesn’t mean crush her hand, but don’t do the limp fish.
Shake her hand the same way you would shake a man’s hand. Allow her to feel your strength. Because a weak handshake can completely kill the attraction.

To take things further and create that sexual tension, hold her hand just a little bit longer than normal. A normal handshake is about two or three seconds, and play with it, experiment with it. See how long you can hold her hand while maintaining that really strong eye contact, that look of desire. While standing a little bit closer to her than normal to really amp up that sexual tension.

Breaking the tension…

Now, of course, at some point, you’re gonna break that tension. It can’t go on forever. But those few moments of sexual tension is what really sparks that intense attraction. It makes you really memorable, also makes her comfortable with you. Because if she can be comfortable with the complete stranger in a matter of seconds – having that kind of moment? I guarantee you she’s gonna want to see you again and take things further.

Now if you combine any number of these, feeling sexual in your body, pausing, giving her the look, standing near her, and touching or holding her hand longer than normal it can trigger instant turn on, so you are ready to escalate things because it’s the man’s job to make the move.


We created a “Free Escalation Cheat Sheet” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sexual tension, turn a girl on, and escalate to the bedroom.

It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sexual – “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.

This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl but it’s going nowhere.

Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level! 
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