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5 Creepy things guys do that turn girls off

Hey guys, it’s Nicole! I’ll be sharing more stuff about how to flirt with girls! Did you know there are creepy things guys do that instantly turns girls off?!

When you first approach and try to flirt with a girl, if you make her feel even a LITTLE creeped out, she’s going to lose interest. You can be a great guy, but if you don’t follow certain “rules” per se, it’s easy to scare her away.

I’m going to tell you five mistakes that most guys make, and how a girl actually wants you to flirt with her so you can avoid being labeled as a creep:

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Approaching someone new, and flirting with them can be super nerve-wracking. We’ve ALL been there. When meeting a new girl, an important thing to remember is that she will feel nervous too!

Meeting anyone new can be a little tense. If you can do something to release that nervous tension, then you’ve got a great chance. A girl wants to feel safe and at ease in your presence. That’s what attracts women. If you create awkward tension by coming across even a little creepy, she’s going to be on guard and you’re going to lose her interest.

MISTAKE 1: They don’t approach after making eye contact!

The first mistake I’ve seen a lot of guys make is that they take FOREVER to approach after making eye contact. When I’m out with my girlfriends, you can guarantee there’s going to be at least one guy that night who makes eye contact with one of us across the room. And then continues to stare over at you for 10-15 mins until they gain the courage to approach.

If you think you’re being fun and playing hard to get building that “Will they/ won’t they?” vibe across the bar, you’re wrong.

The only thing you’ve succeeded in doing is giving off stalker vibes and making the girl feel really uncomfortable knowing you’re even there. You need to approach quickly after making eye contact. Maybe catch her eye once or twice or even three times and then approach. This will make you seem confident and secure and will help her feel more at ease.

MISTAKE 2: They get too close!

The second mistake a lot of guys make is getting too close, too soon. My neighbor, a single guy, asked me a good question the other day… “What if you can’t make eye contact because it’s crowded or you just can’t seem to catch a girl’s glance? What do you do?”

This is a great question because what you do here can definitely make or break your chances. If you can’t get her attention easily, it’s definitely okay to approach her still! You’ve just got to make sure you do it the right way.

The best guideline to remember here is to respect her personal bubble. You don’t want her to feel threatened or nervous by you before you even get the chance to flirt! I have had guys approach me in a bar who tap my shoulder and when I turn around, they are literally five inches from my face!

This will immediately put any girl on edge. If you need to tap someone on the shoulder to get their attention, that’s great, but do it with an arm’s length between you and approach from the side if you can!

MISTAKE 3: They don’t know what to say!

Okay, so you’ve approached the girl… now what? This seems like basic advice but you need to approach with confidence and you NEED to have something to say to her! Practice this in a mirror, or with a friend, or anything you need to do. We also have an article about approaching a girl who doesn’t speak the same language as you!

Keep the conversation light, use a silly pickup line, or make a joke, or you can even tease her a little… but make sure you have SOMETHING to say other than “Hey, I’m so and so.”

Just this weekend, A guy, with whom I had made eye contact a couple times, came up to me and said  “Hey, I’m Bryan” and I smiled and said “Hey! I’m Nicole, nice to meet you.” and then he kind of dropped his head and was silent for like the longest 5 seconds and then goes… “uhhh so are you from around here?

Needless to say, this conversation went nowhere.  After you introduce yourself, you can, and should, make a flirty comment… maybe compliment something she’s wearing, or her eyes or smile… ANYthing about her! Then use your surroundings as topic cues! Are you at a new bar or an old favorite? Talk about that!

If you’re in a coffee shop or store, make comments about your order or tell a story about something you see. By using your surroundings as cues, you can keep the conversation relevant and interactive for BOTH of you. Finding common ground can be a little awkward for anyone, so using cues around you is an easy way to get an idea of what a person likes and thinks.

MISTAKE 4: The Creepy Stare!

Making TOO much eye contact.

This can get a little tricky to find the right balance, but just as the guy who wouldn’t make eye contact with me was weird, making too much eye contact is equally, if not more, creepy. My good friend went on a date recently and the guy made a comment about how her eyes were really pretty… and then basically didn’t look away from them!

Even when she looked away, and tried to distract his gaze, he would immediately return to looking her straight in the eye. This is obviously an extreme example but it’s important to find a good balance that you’re both comfortable with.

MISTAKE 5: Too touchy-feely! 

Too much or unwelcome physical contact can also make a girl feel creeped out. This absolutely differs from girl to girl but you need to pay attention to her body language. Not only how much, but the way, you touch her really matters.

You definitely want to establish a touching interaction fairly soon in the convo, but these first physical interactions need to be light and quick. A nice touch on the arm or shoulder, or maybe at the small of her back if you’re walking… these are all great! Keep it playful! Don’t wrap your arm around her or anything like that just yet. That can make her feel trapped or uneasy.

If you’re having a chat and playfully touch her arm and she smiles and continues talking, then you’re probably good to do that again. She’ll most likely even reciprocate during the conversation. Also, if you touch her and she kinda pulls away or takes a step back, doing it again is probably going to make her feel uncomfortable.

Just because she pulled away doesn’t mean she’s not into you! If the conversation is still going well, it may just mean she’s not ready for that kind of interaction yet. Continue flirting and pay attention to body language, and she’ll let you know when she’s ready. If the conversation dies and feels awkward after a touch, that’s a pretty clear sign that she’s not into it, so you’ll know to make a nice exit and not waste your time with someone who’s not interested.

So I’ve covered the 5 mistakes – a lot of these things are actually EASILY AVOIDABLE as they are kind of based on a lack of confidence or nervousness. If you want to lose that approach anxiety and explode your confidence, we put together a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives you just what you need to gain the strength to approach a girl you like!

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7 Ways To Turn Things Sexual & Turn A Girl On

Alright man, let’s be honest…

We flirt with pretty girls because we want to have sex with them.

So at some point, you have to turn things sexual. But if you do it the wrong way, you can creep her out.

On the flip side, if you know what you’re doing, you can get her REALLY turned on and practically begging to sleep with you.

So here are my 7 ways to turn a girl on during a conversation:

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7 Ways to Turn Things Sexual & Turn A Girl On

A lot of guys lose the girl because they don’t know how to go from a normal getting to know each other conversation – to an “I want to rip your clothes off” interaction. And the girl can lose interest if you don’t know how to turn it sexual at some point because women usually won’t do it for you. If you want to try to get her to kiss you first, then I recommend this article all about approaching a girl to make her kiss you.

So here are my top 7 ways to turn the conversation sexual.  The last one, #1, is by far my favorite.

#7. Direct

Tell her what you want to do to her. If there weren’t all these people here I’d push you up against the wall and have my way with you.or“I have way too many naughty thoughts running through my head right now” 

As a side note, it’s great if you accuse her of turning you on. Blame her for your sexual advances such as, “stop being so cute” or “you have to stop looking at me like that or I’ll have to do something about it” or “stop being so cute or I’m going to kiss you” then “you did it again you gave me that look”

#6. Indirect

Tell her something that someone said or did or something you saw in a movie, radio show (who still listens to the radio these days?), magazine etc. Something like “My friend went to a sex party. Would you ever do something like that?” or “I was watching Howard Stern and he asked women from ages 18 to 65, if given the right situation with the right person they’d choose – would they have sex?”

#5. Innuendoes

This a form of indirectness that takes something seemingly innocent and gives it a sexual double meaning.  But it needs to be under the radar.

For example, if she says she’s baking a cake and you tell her that you want to eat cake off her naked body it’s not really a sexual innuendo, it’s just really sexual and direct. Instead say, “then I guess if I’m lucky I’ll have my cake and eat it, too”

#4. Role Plays

You get away with anything in a role play because it’s not real. Boyfriend and girlfriend, cops and robbers, breakup role play. You can have a lot to choose from and make sure its fun. My personal favorite is a Marriage role play.

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#3. Questions

Favorite position. Fantasy, craziest sexual experience. Craziest place you’ve had sex. Works great in the context of the questions game.

#2. Games

Games are not real, and not really serious, so you can get away with more in the context of a game. FMK, 2 truths and a lie, truth or dare (with 3 or more people), thumb wrestling, slap hands, questions game, bumps and grinds, etc.

#1. Role Reversal

Accusing her of being the overly sexual one. Women love this. Did you just look down at my package. Eyes up here.” “Stop undressing me with your eyes you are so bad” “I’m not going home with you that easily”

Talk about sex more…

When you start turning your conversations sexual I want you to notice how much women actually love talking about sexual topics. It might surprise you. And notice that when you start to turn the conversation sexual more often in your interactions, things escalate a whole lot quicker.

Now if you really want to learn how to turn things sexual there’s an even better method in the next YouTube video where one of our top trainers Josiah Prise shows you a routine that he uses to ramp up the sexual escalation to a whole new level and get’s her thinking that he’s a sexual superstar.

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Where to meet girls – The 12 BEST places to meet women

Tired of frequenting bars and clubs and competing with other guys for women? Want to know where to meet girls where there’s little to no competition whatsoever?! This video is for you.

I’ll show you where to meet women with the best possible chance to pick them up!

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Where To Meet Girls

Look, man, most guys are doing this dating thing all wrong. Someone once told me, if you wanted to sell a book, the hardest place to sell it is a bookstore. Why? Because you are competing with all the other books. I don’t know if that’s true, but it’s definitely true when it comes to dating. If you go to bars, clubs or searching online then you are competing with every other guy there.

Instead, make meeting women a whole lot easier by going to where there’s little to no competition.

What’s your type of woman?

Listen, Most guys do the shotgun approach to dating and as a result, they are going for women that they aren’t even compatible with. Hear me out, if you ask any successful business how they find customers they do it a very specific way so they can target the demographic that is most likely to be compatible and want to buy their product. You need to view dating the exact same way. And if you do this you’ll start meeting and dating the women that you actually want. Then you’ll be ready to approach a girl and spark that attraction.

So what is your target demographic? Do you need to have a clear picture as to what TYPE of women you want to date? For example, you probably shouldn’t go looking for women in bars and clubs if you’re not even into party girls.

So first ask yourself these questions:

  • What age range should she be?
  • Do you want a party animal or a girl that keeps it classy? Or maybe a bit of both
  • Do you want an active girl that plays sports?
  • What level of education should she have?
  • Are you a health nut? Perhaps she should be too.
  • Do you want her to be ambitious and driven?

Understanding the qualities of your ideal girl will help you find where she hangs out. That being said, some of the following locations will appeal to you while others will not.

But before I give you the list of my favorite places, you need to know this: One of the biggest logistical factors to help you meet more women is to Optimize Your Lifestyle.

Purposefully live in neighborhoods filled with the women you’d like to meet. This way, you’ll see them more often in your everyday life. This will drastically improve the number of women you’ll meet. 

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The 12 Best Places To Meet Women

Yoga classes and festivals

Especially good if you love athletic and flexible girls and who doesn’t like that. Usually, these girls are really into health, nature, energy work like tantra, chakra clearing, and different forms of self-development.

Bars, clubs, and lounges

Make sure that you go to venues that you enjoy instead of going to ones that you don’t like just because there are more cute girls. Because you will do better if you are enjoying yourself.

The Dog Park

Have a dog? Then go here. Approaching her will be much easier because you immediately have something in common.

One of my favorite openers for a girl with a dog that I got from my good friend Vince Kelvin is “Hey what a cute owner you have!”

Health Food Store

Do you buy groceries? Well, she probably does too, especially if she is health conscious. Try Whole Foods. In my experience, health food store has a lot more pretty girls than Walmart or Piggly Wiggly. 

Coffee Shops

Do you like to read or work on your laptop? Well, head over to a popular coffee shop. For some reason, hot women love Starbucks. It’s kind of a trend.

Hang out for a couple hours, sit where all the people pass by, and wait until you see a lady you’d like to meet.

If she’s busy reading or working, make sure to acknowledge what she’s doing, “Hey, I see you’re reading. but I wanted to come over real quick and say ‘hi.”

The Gym

Hot women usually work out so find the gym where all the girls attend. Keep in mind at the gym they are not there to chit chat so keep it short and sweet.

Use our simple “Compliment, Qualify, Close” process to make her deeply attracted to you in under 3 minutes.

Cooking Class

Yup, most cooking classes are FILLED with ONLY women. The best case scenario is when women outnumber men because they’ll fight over you.

Music Festivals or Concerts

If you love music, then this is your spot. Large music festivals have TONS of women and they are all looking to have fun. To win the girl over, focus on having fun.

Shopping Malls

If you like a girl that dresses nice, then you can be sure she frequents malls. The best times are usually Saturday mornings.

The Park

I know of a girl that said, “I’d really love a guy to approach me while I am running.” This was a surprise to me.  But yes, if she likes to run, she’d also like to meet a guy that likes to run. So you runners know what to do…

However, at popular parks, you’ll find women doing all sorts of activities. They’re all fair game.

The Beach

Sunny beaches are loaded with beautiful women in bikinis getting their tan on. The thing is that most guys are way too intimidated to approach a girl in a bikini – so by approaching her, you’ll stand out.

College Campus

Even if you aren’t in college, even if you are in your 30’s or 40’s this is my favorite place to meet women. Because it is a target rich environment full of young educated women who are eager to socialize. So just visit your local university and go for a walk or visit a cafe on campus and strike up conversations.

Now you might be afraid that she’ll ask you why you are there. First of all, they almost never ask. If she does, just tell her you are taking a walk, or you like the coffee shop or that you have a friend that goes there, if it’s true. Or be honest and say that you don’t like meeting women at bars and clubs because they are too drunk and sloppy. You’d be surprised at how many women love that answer.

BONUS: Meetup groups

Join meetup groups or organizations that you enjoy such as hiking or wine meetup groups. You’ll find other women with the same hobbies so you’ll immediately have a connection and something to talk about. You can also take seminars or classes that interest you. I’ve found that a lot of women love to attend personal development workshops like PSI or Millionaire Mind Intensive and the women usually outnumber the men.

Somewhere else….?

But what if you are really into something not really all that girl friendly such as video games or shooting guns or MMA fighting?

Now even if you aren’t in your favorite environment, for example, you just see a beautiful woman walking down the street, make sure you approach her because even though you have no idea what her interests are or if she’s compatible you can easily find out. Take advantage of all opportunities!

Now, How do you start the conversation in each of these situations?

I created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you.

You get:

  • My top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say…
  • A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe
  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more!

Download it now because you’ll want to keep this handy before you go out.

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