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Can I Be Your Boyfriend? (Approach Challenge Part 2)

This is part two of using the opener, “Can I be your boyfriend?”

Again, it’s not so much about what you say, but how you say it. While you’re watching this video, pay attention to our overall vibe and presence.

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5 Secrets to Make Her Fall In Love with You

Here are my 5 secrets that will make her fall in love with you!

Whether you just met, it’s your first date, or you’ve been dating a while, girls want a story. They fantasize about a fairytale romance.

Do what I tell you in this video, and you will be able to create feelings of intense connection and love very quickly.

Some guys tend to believe that there’s an elaborate formula to make a girl fall in love with you. Or that it’s all about money, fame, or looks for them. They couldn’t be more wrong:

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5 Secrets To Make Her Fall In Love With You

#5
Create a Story

Girls want a good story of how you guys met.

Think about it, women are conditioned by romance movies, and even by Disney movies as a kid, and the prince and princess never meet on tinder or at a club.

Women fantasize about a movie moment where they meet their prince charming in a romantic way, like a bookstore or salsa class or any random unexpected way during the day where the man needs balls to approach her.

Like for me, I get approached way more at night, but it rarely happens during the day, and I wish a charming guy would just come to say hi. And the same is true for a date, which creates lots of moments for her throughout the date, for example, if you take her to the movies and make her miss a good scene because you are trying to kiss her, it’s not going to be as special or memorable as going for the kiss on the beach under the stars or while dancing to a romantic song in the park.

Chivalry isn’t dead!

#4
Bring her fairy tale to life

Pay close attention to what she says to ultimately figure out her goals and dreams in life. Then create an alignment with her future and your future.

For example: after a couple of dates and she tells you she wants kids, you can ask her “do you think I’d be a good dad?” Therefore, you are getting her to start thinking about you as a fatherly-like figure. But make sure always to be real and authentic.

Another example could be if she wants to be an entrepreneur, you could talk about, how fun would it be to work on your businesses together on the beach. But make sure to be real and authentic, just don’t make stuff up. You don’t want to waste both your time if you are not compatible.

#3
Create an adventure

The point here is to create great memories together because the more great memories you create, the more invested and connected she will feel.


So, instead of just going to dinner and the movies, like every other guy, plan something more memorable and original like fun activities together, for example, Rollerblading, ice skating, dancing, or hiking, remember that motion creates emotion.

No girl wants to be bored on a date.

#2
Create Emotion

People are used to having conversations about the same topics over and over again about work, the weather, family and where they are from.

It is fine to talk about these things but if that is the bulk of your conversation, she’ll just go into her autopilot response and won’t FEEL anything, and it’s emotions that create powerful memories.

For example: do you remember where you were when 9/11 happened, or when Donald Trump got elected? Probably, because you were either really excited Donald Trump was elected or really pissed. Either way, you were emotionally charged.

But do you remember what you had for dinner last Tuesday? Probably not because it wasn’t emotional, unless it was your birthday or you did something unique. That’s because memories form through emotion. If she doesn’t feel anything, then she won’t even remember you, let alone fall in love with you. The worst thing you could do is be boring.

In fact, it’s better to create any emotion than no emotion. A man is usually too scared to offend or upset the woman, so he plays it safe.

Ask memorable questions like:

  • What would you tell your younger self?”
  • “What are your main goals in life?”
  • “What’s one thing no one knows about you?”

The first date I had with a guy was so memorable, and I ended up dating him for 2 years after that.

So keep her stimulated, most importantly, keep her mind stimulated with emotion & excitement. It’s exciting and romantic memories that create the feeling of love.

#1
Show Affection the way she wants it

You see, there are 5 major ways to show affection, also known as the 5 love languages.

  1. Touch – massage, head scratch
  2. Quality Time – attention is all on her
  3. Words of Affirmation – telling her what you like, care about,
  4. Acts of Service – doing something for her
  5. Gift Giving – thoughtful presents (not necessarily expensive) that surprise and give value

You see, not every woman wants affection the same way. All of these forms of appreciation are important, but some are stronger than others for different people.

For example, they are all important to me, but one of my strongest love languages is physical touch.

The key is to find out which is most important to her because you might think you are giving her all this value by communicating to her in your own love language when really you might be smothering her.

One way to find out her love languages is to pay attention to how she reacts by reading her body language. If you touch her and she recoils or if you compliment her and she shuts it down then those might not be her love languages.

You can even ask her, “would you rather have a back massage or receive gift?”. Or can even ask the girl if she knows what her love languages are, and if not you can explain it to her.

Once you know her strongest forms of receiving affection, then simply start showing affection the way she wants. But make sure not to overdo it too soon.

Women should earn your affection.

Final Thoughts

Remember, if you can create a story for her, get her to start imagining a future with you, make fun memories, spark romantic feelings, and show affection the way she wants, feelings of love will be right around the corner.

So, to help you out, Matt created a free conversation cheat sheet. where he breaks down exactly what to say after “Hello” to make her want you.

You get:

  • Our top conversation starters for any situation…
  • Simple techniques to never run out of things to say and create emotion…
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  • And simple ways to escalate the interaction.
  • And more

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Top 10 Countries to Meet Beautiful Women

As you know, I’ve traveled all over the world meeting beautiful women. So it’s about time I tell you my Top 10 countries to meet beautiful women!

If you are a traveler like myself, then you may have wondered which countries are the best for meeting beautiful women. Well, I spent five years living out of a suitcase traveling to over 70 countries in search for not only the most beautiful women but also the best women to date for long-term relationships as well as some casual fun.

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Top 10 Countries to Meet Beautiful Women

First of all, these are just my opinions and I recommend traveling and doing your own research and please leave some of your own opinions in a comment down below because I’m sure there will be some countries that are great that just didn’t make my list.

So let’s get started.

JAPAN

I spent about 6 weeks in Japan and although women are extremely shy and reserved at first, they are also extremely attractive and dress sexy as hell. Mostly short skirts and school attire even in the colder months.

The women are also very educated but the language barrier can be a problem, not because they don’t speak any English but because they are often too embarrassed to try. The women are also very submissive to their men and are expected to submit to male authority. It’s no wonder Bukkake came from Japan.

Now if you are a confident guy then you will kill it there because the local men are often too lazy and shy to approach women. In fact, the birth rate has been decreasing because less and fewer couples are having children. The same is true in Singapore which I think is almost a tie with Japan for beautiful women. In fact, Josiah and I once coached a class of 17 single women there and they all agreed that local men are too afraid to make the move. So if you strike up a conversation and are bold enough to make a move then you will do great in Japan.

BRAZIL

I spent 3 weeks in Rio and absolutely loved it. Not only are the beaches there amazing but so are the women.

Brazilians are well known for their love of sexy dance and wild festivals; the most famous is Carnival or as I like to call it, the Makeout Festival. You can easily make out with 10 girls in one day. It’s normal in Brazilian culture to be close and affectionate and kissing is no big deal. Kissing on the cheek is the most common greeting and being in someone’s personal space too is not as taboo as it is in some other countries. Brazilians tend to be very comfortable when in close proximity to others.

Women were actually walking so close to me that they would push into me. It’s one of the only places where I had a woman kiss me first!

Latin women, in general, have a strong sense of family, are generally more emotional and more possessive, and are raised to be feminine and do girly things and focus on looking good. All winners in my book.

Not all Brazilians know English, so that can be a challenge if you don’t know any Portuguese. I went on two dates with girls that didn’t speak a lick of English, which I don’t really mind, because they love to touch and body language is all you need.

SWEDEN

Swedish women, despite the fact that they don’t wear a lot of makeup, if any, are beautiful, open-minded, adventurous and very friendly. Since Sweden is a prosperous country, the women typically have good jobs and are able to support themselves.

To me, it seemed like there were more feminists here than any other country, which makes Swedish girls very open-minded and it’s not uncommon for them to even make the first move. Sex on a first date is pretty common as long as she’s into you of course. Because of the huge emphasis on equality and since they usually have a good job, most Swedes won’t expect the man to pay on the first date. But I think it’s a nice gesture anyway, but don’t be overly insistent. Also, Sweden is really expensive so keep that in mind as well.

Also, keep in mind that Swedes love to drink so she’ll probably drink you under the table.

Swedes generally speak softly and calmly. It is rare to witness a Swede demonstrating anger or strong emotion in public, which seems to be the opposite of Latin culture. They also take their personal space very seriously so don’t expect them to be as touchy-feely as Brazilians.

And don’t give her flowers on the date because it’s uncommon for a first date and will just put you in the courting role instead of the potential lover role.

RUSSIA

There is this myth floating around that there are a lot more women than men in Russia and E Europe (explain). If you want to date women who are over 80 then Eastern Europe and Russia might be the way to go. It could happen in a particular city if there’s an all women’s university.

Another myth is that the men look at women as the “weaker sex”, which is not true at all—but instead women are seen as “the prettier sex.” Therefore, women do everything they can to always look their best. Don’t be surprised if you see a young woman at the grocery store who looks like she’s dressed to go clubbing.

Unlike in Sweden where the men can often be a little feminine and the women are more in tune with their masculinity, In Russian culture, you’ll see a strong polarity between femininity and masculinity.

Women are always expected to look feminine and be reserved. This is why one night stands are less common.

Russian women love a gentleman and they expect the man to charm her into liking him by making romantic gestures, such as buying her flowers, paying for her expenses and buying gifts. It’s always expected that the man pays for the dates.

Unlike Swedish women who value career, Russian women put love and family above everything else. Most Russians marry in their early 20s. Once a woman hits 25 she’ll get a lot of pressure from her family to get married. This is why the bars and even the streets are full of gorgeous young single women, just waiting to be approached.

MEXICO

Mexico is one of my favorite countries to travel to not only because of the delicious, not so healthy food but of course the women. Even though Mexico is a highly religious country, the women seem to be very open-minded and sex doesn’t seem to have a huge stigma.

Mexican women are also very pretty because, similar to Russia, Mexicans put a great deal of value in appearance and usually dress up for a date. Just like in Brazil, men and women often kiss each other on each cheek as a greeting and stand quite close together while chatting. And this doesn’t necessarily mean there is any sexual intent.

It’s a traditional culture so you’ll be expected to pay for the date and make sure to be a gentleman. If you are a caucasian male, then you’ll do exceptionally well here as Mexican women, and basically, all women for that matter, love to be approached by a confident charming man.

SERBIA

I’ve taught two boot camps in Serbia and I must say the women are definitely some of the most beautiful in the world. And the stereotype that they don’t like American’s isn’t true.

But if you are going here for a short visit hoping for a one night stand, although it could happen it’s just not that likely because most Serbs are looking for long-term relationships. They are good wife material since they are traditional yet still focus on education and career. Wealth is important to them, and more so than having it, having the appearance of wealth is important.

When picking up a Serb make sure to be dominant with strong eye contact . They are a proud people and are suspicious of anyone breaking eye contact during conversation.  Similar to Russians, they take a lot of pride in their homeland so you will definitely score points by knowing about or showing interest in their country.

But keep in mind that Serbian women are masters of leading you on so even if she’s showing you a lot of interest and is talking to you it doesn’t mean she’s sexually interested.

But definitely check out the nightlife while you are there because Belgrade has some fun bars and cool club on the water.

PHILIPPINES

The Philippines is where I spend most of my time, because it’s super cheap, for example, I have a full time live in maid for only $150 a month, massages are $6 and the girls are the most beautiful in all of Asia in my opinion and are super open minded.

Of course, you will find plenty of traditional girls who just want a boyfriend, but a lot of girls are liberated and want to have fun, especially with a non-Asian foreigner. The countries slogan is it’s more fun in the Philippines and I think it’s true.

If you are a good looking white guy, then don’t be surprised if girls look at you and smile when you walk by. But it’s rare that they will actually approach a guy, unless they are drunk at the club, or a pok pok.

The downside is that they are generally less educated or focused on a career as some of the European countries on my list. They can also be really shy and a little uninteresting on a date with not a lot to talk about, which is pretty common in all of Asia. They might even seem totally uninterested but really they are just shy.  They also tend to get attached easily. So be careful showing too much interest. And don’t be surprised if she brings a friend on the date. But, it’s not always a bad thing.

Another plus is that pretty much all Filipinos speak English, since English is a subject they study throughout their schooling. In fact, all the movies are in English with no subtitles. But just like in any country you do score a few points if you know a few words in their language.

MOLDOVA

Moldova, which I’ve visited twice is one of the hidden gems of Europe when searching for stunning women, and since it’s not known for tourism, because there’s not much to do, it’s rare that you’ll see a lot of other foreigners. So it’s easy to get a date because they will be intrigued about your culture and why you came to visit their country.

It’s a very traditional culture even more so than Russia, so the courting process is going to take some time. Don’t expect a one night stand. You’re going to have to put some effort in. I recommend to be a gentleman and even show up with flowers. If not on the first date, then definitely the 3rd or 4th. It’s the poorest country in Europe so flowers will only cost a dollar or two.

Dates typically consist of walking, and this seems to also be true for Russia, Ukraine and Belarus, where even though your date will probably show up in heels she’ll want to go for a walk. Of course, you can stop for food and drinks, but the women love to go for long walks. Now I’ve only been to Eastern Europe and Russia in the summer months so I think it’s probably because it’s too cold to go on walks in the winter. Unlike Philippines where a girl is happy to go back to your air-conditioned condo right away to escape the horrible heat, don’t expect a Moldovan to come back to your place on the first or second date.

So, Moldova is a terrible place for a quick fling but is a great place to find a hot wife. For dating, plan on spending a month or two at the minimum. And keep in mind, that even in Chisinau there’s not a whole lot to do. Which is probably why, according to Wikipedia Moldova ranks #2 for alcohol consumption in the entire world, only to be beaten by Belarus, which is another great untapped country full of gorgeous women.

COLOMBIA

I bought a condo in Medellin in 2016 and have spent a total of 5 months there and in all of Latin America, I think Colombian’s are the most attractive. Colombia still has a very traditional culture when it comes to dating. You’ll be expected to pay and be a gentleman.  It’s also a fairly macho society, similar to Russia, so expect a wider masculine-feminine polarity.

Colombian culture is very sexualized however Colombian women are not particularly fast or easy, I went on 5 dates with a girl in Medellin and she kissed on the first date but that was the farthest she was willing to go the entire time we hung out. Not all Colombians are that traditional, but either way, make sure to respect their boundaries.

Colombian women are also very flaky. Expats there often schedule 2 or 3 dates a night because of the highly likely hood that one of them might flake.

Colombians are also very passionate. And because of that passion, they can also get super jealous even on a first date. But that passion and craziness can also be good for other things. Just make sure your dates are fun and exciting, a boring dinner date will get you nowhere. Also make sure to sit side by side because, similar to Brazil, Colombians are very touchy-feely.

Definitely visit Colombia because prices are low, there’s a lot to do, great restaurants, fantastic culture, and amazingly beautiful women. They put a huge emphasis on beauty here and if the girl isn’t naturally beautiful or curvy then she’ll usually just pay for it.

UKRAINE

Because of the endless amount of model-like women and affordability Ukraine is my number one pick for meeting hot women. There is a reason most mail order brides come from Ukraine.

Just like Moldova and Belarus, Ukrainian dating is more traditional. Dress well, feel free to bring flowers and be a gentleman. Go to a restaurant first and then drinks or a long walk.

Unlike western culture, most Ukrainian women don’t talk about sex or sexual topics on a first date. I’ve had a Ukrainian girl say, “we don’t talk about those kinds of things”. So what I like to do is take my dates to this BDSM bar in Lvov, which makes it okay to talk about that subject.

You will really get a mix here. I’ve had about 60% super conservative and 40% not- so-conservative. So you really have the best of both worlds for casual dating as well as serious long-term relationships.

And make sure to finish all your alcohol. According to Ukrainian old wives stories, if you will leave the empty bottle on the table, you may become cursed with poverty.

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So there you have it my top 10 list of countries for meeting hot women. And don’t forget other countries like Argentina, pretty much all the Baltic, Scandinavian, Eastern Europe countries and Thailand and Vietnam, can also be really good options so pack your bags and start exploring.

By the way, the main way I meet women on my travels is not bars, clubs or online dating, because that’s where all the competition is. Instead, I meet them during the day just walking down the street or sitting in the park.

If you want to know how to meet women in any situation and what to say to spark attraction and get a number, and even what to say on the date then make sure to download my free conversation cheat sheet.

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5 Reasons Why Women Reject Men (And how to FIX it!)

Hey guys! I know its hard getting rejected by girls. Especially by ones you really like.

The problem is that girls don’t tell you why they reject you. So in today’s video, Dating Coach Renee Slansky reveals the top reasons girls reject guys.

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5 Reasons Why Women Reject Men
(& How to FIX it!)

Rejection hurts because it makes us feel inadequate as a person and potential partner. It knocks about our self–esteem, confidence and basically, all around makes us feel like crap.

We are all going to experience some sort of rejection in life, ( so let’s be realistic ) but if we can minimize it, then chances are we will feel more successful.

So here are 5 reasons why most women reject men and I’m also going to give you a practical solution to each of those reasons so that you can actually break the pattern. And then at the end, I will give you a cool bonus.

So lets’ start!

1: You’re coming across too strong or not strong enough

There’s a fine line become coming across overbearing and confident, just like there is between being nice and being boring. Women want a decisive man who can take control but she also wants to know you will give her options and space for her to move.

Solution;  Her reaction will be your indication if you have gone too far or not far enough. Have a plan when you date or approach her so you can come across as a man with direction , but ask her opinion and give her some free range to add to the ‘plan’ so she feels valued.

2: You are friend zoning yourself 

Here’s the thing , even if she has already thought she can friend zone you , you can actually change her mind . Friend zoning usually happened when you are too available and too nice.  She feels safe around you and can trust you which is great , but you need to keep up the chase and add a little bit of danger and excitement by not always agreeing with what she says and does and by taking control a little more.

Solution – allow her to see you in positions where you can show your leadership skills and have other women respond to you. Don’t also be so available and every time things get a bit plutonic step back and get her to chase you a little more.

3:  Your lack of confidence is betraying you 

Not going to lie, women are ridiculously attracted to a confident man! Confidence is about projecting yourself in a certain way, even if you don’t feel it.  Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.

Solution – use body language and knowledge about what women want to your advantage to appear more confident. Dress to impress and always have a plan.

4: You aren’t putting in the effort to woo her

I did a poll recently and the number one reason women were being turned off by men was that they felt they weren’t putting in any effort. Effort doesn’t equate to spending lots of money on flowers and fancy dinners, it’s more about making us feel like a priority.

Solution –take note of how she responds to certain words and actions so you can keep putting energy into the ones that get her going. Remember the small details and doing little things daily to communicate you are thinking about her.

5: You’re trying too hard 

Yes, we want you to put in an effort but if you don’t give us room to chase you a little (which is what women instinctively want to do), then we get turned off. We want a little bit of mystery and a challenge whilst also knowing that you aren’t playing games. 

Solution – initiate the chase and start to woo her , but don’t go all in at once , give her a little then step back so she wants more…then give her more , etc. and keep repeating. Tease her with who you are the potential you offer her.

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Lastly I will say this, we aren’t always going to be everyone’s cup of tea, so think of it not as rejection but redirection onto someone better !  Don’t get stuck in that moment of defeat, instead take it on board , learn something from it and use it to your advantage for the next woman who comes along.

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When to Kiss a Girl | The BEST time to go for a Kiss

The first kiss is a big deal for most women.

They want it to be romantic. They want it to be in a good location. They want it to be a good story.

As you know, we have our own rules about going for the kiss; however, we decided to ask some Vegas girls for their opinions on the best time to go for the kiss.

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