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What to Text a Girl You Like (How to Text a Girl)

You’ve got her phone number; now what do you do? Well, in this video I’ll break down exactly what to text a girl you like to get a date fast. Because I typically send only three to five text messages to get a date. I’ll show you how to text a girl and I’ll give you those exact messages in just a second.

The key is that you have to stand out from all of the other guys that are messaging her. Because if she’s an attractive woman, then she’s getting bombarded by guys messaging her every single day. I’m going to show you exactly how to stand out.

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WHAT TO TEXT A GIRL YOU LIKE
(How to Text a Girl)

 

Okay, now let me help you out with your texting. I’m going to give you five texting tips and examples. And number five is the exact sequence that I use to get the date.

First, let’s clear one thing right now. Texting is a lot easier when you have a solid interaction in person. If you didn’t create any connection or attraction and you just had a nice, plutonic interaction, there’s not much you can do through texting to fix that.

Assuming you had an excellent face-to-face interaction, or maybe you got her phone number of Tinder, or Bumble, tip number one has to do with timing. Timing is crucial.

 

#1

Don’t text too soon or too late!

Typical Guy Tips:
Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious, but I think three days is kind of money.
You know what? Maybe I’ll wait three weeks.

Wrong.

Don’t wait too long! If you meet a girl at a bar text her the next day, in the afternoon, because if you wait longer than that, the memories start to fade.

Women are being bombarded by messages from guys on Tinder and social media, so if you wait too long, she may already be into another guy.

I only text her the same night if I think there’s a chance that she might come over that night. I will text her what I’m doing. For example, “Went to go grab a pizza to kill the hangover,” or “Milkshakes at 2:00 AM rock!”

And if she replies, and says, “Mmm, I wish I could have a milkshake,” then, of course, I’m going to invite her. This works, because sometimes she just needed to drop off her friends then she’s willing to meet up alone.

If you meet a girl during the day, don’t wait more than 3 or 4 hours to send your first text, unless you had a really long or intimate interaction, which I’ll show you how to do, then you might still be on her mind the next day. But during the day I usually text her around 3 or 4 hours after I met her.

Now, what about replying to her texts?

How soon should you text back? The key here is to be random. Don’t always text back right away and don’t always wait too long.

Don’t just stop whatever you’re doing to check your phone and text her back. Keep your phone on silent. That way … Sometimes you’re going to text back right away. Sometimes you’re going to wait two or three hours. Sometimes you’re going to be waiting even longer, maybe all day, because you’re busy.

That keeps things a lot more random and prevents you from overthinking things and playing games. Just be a busy guy. Live a cool life. And text her randomly, because she is not the most essential thing in your life.

 

#2

Don’t over text.

The goal of texting is to get the date, not text all the time. When I’m coaching guys and look at their text, I see 20 or 30, text messages back and forth and they never asked her out. Don’t do that. Go for the date.

I go for the date usually within five texts, because why do more work than needed? Plus, if you’re texting her all the time, it shows her that you’re not a busy guy and don’t have much going on in your life. Women like guys that have other things going on in their life other than them.

Also, keep your texts short and sweet. Before you send the text, look through it again and see if there are any unnecessary words that you can eliminate. Don’t send a text that’s three or four sentences when you could have said the same thing with just one sentence.

 

#3

Be Playful!

Next, I want you to start being slightly more playful in your texts. Here’s why. If she sees you as a fun, playful guy, then she will assume that going on a date with you will also be fun and not dull.

But if you’re sending her a bunch of boring texts, like, “Hey, what’s up? What are you doing?” She’s going to assume that going on a date with you is going to be boring and that you are going just to ask her a bunch of annoying questions on the date.

Make things a little bit more interesting than the average guy. For example, instead of saying, “What’s up?”, or “What are you doing?” you could say, “What kind of trouble are you getting into this weekend?

Just adding the word trouble makes it a little bit more interesting. Instead of sending a ping text like, “Hey!” you could say something like, “Hey, you just popped into my head. What kind of weird voodoo magic are you using?” A text like that can actually make her smile, causing her to associate you with positive emotions. Whereas, “Hey!” doesn’t do anything. And there are a lot more examples of these in the free texting cheat sheet.

 

#4

Text Like A MAN!

Number four is Text like a man. What I mean by that is cut out unnecessary questions. Okay, sometimes you do want to ask her questions.

I like exciting questions, by the way, like, “If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?” Or, “If you could have any superpower, what would you have and why?

That can create some fun back and forth. But you want to avoid questions that make it seem like you’re not sure if she’s into you yet, or you’re not sure if she wants to hang out with you and use command statements instead. Instead of texting, “Want to meet up sometime?” say, “Hey! Let’s meet up Saturday night. I know this great place.

This shows that you assume that she’s attracted to you and wants to see you. And be more specific about when you want to hang out. Women like a man with a plan. So instead of “Let’s hang out sometime.” Send, “Hey, let’s hang out tomorrow night. I have an amusing idea…“. Or, tell her the exact location, “Cancel all plans tomorrow night. I know a great band that’s playing at Crazy Charlie’s. Let’s go. It’s gonna be fun.” It’s specific, and it’s a command instead of a question.

Now, I want to give you the exact sequence that I use, from start to finish, to go for a date. First, I start off with a callback, something that relates or calls back to the initial interaction.

If it was at night, then usually something funny, that we joked about, or that I teased her about. For example, if we did a fun marriage role play, I might text her the next day “Hey wifey I cheated on you with the housekeeper don’t be mad.”

If we met during the day, then I might recall something that happened during the initial interaction such as her reaction to my approach.

For example, “So crazy meeting you today. It was cute how you dropped your phone when I said hi.” Or, if she didn’t drop her phone, but she just seemed nervous, I might say, “It was cute how nervous you got when I said hi.”

Notice also, how I don’t say “nice meeting you” because the word “nice” is too overused. Be more original than that and say, “so random meeting you,” or, “so unexpected meeting you.”

And then, after she replies, send a fun yet challenging text like, “Make it or break it question. Would you rather be poor and travel the world or be rich but could never leave your city?” I use this one because I love to travel. I encourage you to pick something that qualifies her or screens her based on a quality that you that you want in a woman.

But don’t make it too complicated. Don’t start asking her about her passions and goals in life. That’s too long and personal through text. Keep it fun and save those questions that for the date.

#5

Qualify Her.

By the way, you should be qualifying and challenging women in your initial interactions as well. Let them win you over. A woman wants to win you over. She wants to chase you a little bit. Okay? She doesn’t want a guy who’s just too easy and falls head over heels over her right away.

And I like the “make it or break it” part because that’s what actually makes it sound like a challenge. Or, for example, you if you like adventurous women, you can text, “Tell me this, are you adventurous?

It’s short and sweet and causes her to invest a little. And then after she replies to that, there might be a little bit of back and forth, depending on her answer. Then find out what her schedule is, when is she free. Just ask, “When are you free this week?”

Or if you want to be more playful, you could add in, “Besides missing and doodling hearts on a piece of paper, what are you doing this weekend?

Remember to keep it fun and playful. Don’t be too serious. And then, just go for the date. For example, if she said she’s free on Sunday, you can text,

Okay, listen. I have a super fun idea. Keep Sunday night open.” I like that because it gets her wondering what the fun idea is. It sounds like a surprise.

And, some women will just go for that. Other women might ask, “What is the fun idea?” In which I just say, “Cool bar that you probably haven’t been to. First, meet at Handle Bar. Be there at 8:00 PM.”

That works really well. Try it out, man. Remember, women like a man with a plan who go for what they want.

 

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How To Tell a Girl You Like Her WITHOUT Getting FRIEND ZONED

We all know how hard it is to master how to tell a girl you like her WITHOUT Getting Friend Zoned. They say that the biggest fear in the world is public speaking, I reckon the SECOND biggest is revealing how you feel about someone.

It’s like jumping out of a plane, hoping that the parachute will open and that you won’t crash and burn in case she rejects you! 

So how can you guarantee that telling her you like her won’t have her running for the hills? Whilst I can’t give you a 100% guarantee she will feel the same , what I do want to do in this video  is show you strategically how you can start to reveal your feelings for her without scaring her away!


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HOW TO TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER
Without Getting Friend Zoned!

I’m Renee Slansky for the Attractive man and it’s my job as your coach to make you the most  confident and desirable man that you can be. 

 If you are currently dating a girl that you really like or maybe have been trying to get it across to that friend of yours that you keep hanging out with , that you really like her ….then you will want to watch this video.  

Women can get cold feet just like you guys , and sometimes we get scared about our feelings or the possibility of a relationship because of our past experiences . So here are my tips to help you communicate your feelings to her in a way to minimize rejection and increase your chances of having those feelings reciprocated . 

Start to test the waters a little by sending hints

The very first thing you need to do is gather as much information as you can about how she could possibly feel before you go all in. It’s like seeing how cold or deep the water is before diving into the pool!

Some basic ways to drop hints would be complimenting her in more specific detail eg : 

“I think your eyes look beautiful today” , as opposed to “you look hot!” or “ I think your really great at that , you can tell your creativity is a strength , it makes you glow.”

Remember the little things she has mentioned and then do something about it! Ifs she mentioned that she never has time to eat a proper meal because of a stressful deadline , then send an Uber Eats meal to her house as a surprise

Start asking her about her future plans and include her in yours subtly with phrases like “we “ and “us”

 After dropping hints , you want to  watch for her response. Does she pull away? Does she laugh compliments off or does she blush and return them? Does she change the subject when you start to talk more about the future ?

This will help give you an indication if she is on the same page or may need a little more time.  

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Show her first before you tell her

Actions will always speak louder than words and whilst women love to hear what you have to say , ultimately it’s what you do that will either win her over or not.  If you just up and tell her one day that you like or love her , but you don’t actually show it , chances are she will be doubtful , confused or just flat out reject you . 

Now the easiest way you can do this without having to spend lots of money , buy 10 puppies or build a disney castle , is to simply learn what her love language is. Guys is you haven’t read Dr Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages , then stop , collaborate and listen. You need to , it will literally change everything you need to know about love and women. 

Basically there are 5 ways in which we give and receive love , which are :

Acts of Service ( doing stuff for her )
Quality time ( spending time with her and being present and not on your phone )
Physical Touch ( affection , kissing and sex ) 
Gifts ( buying her things she appreciates ) 
Words Of Affirmation  ( telling her positive things , compliments etc) 

Now if you can work out which way she feels loved and then focus on fulfilling that love language , I guarantee that she is going to really start to becoming attached to you!

Choose the right medium for you – Text or Face to Face

The next step is deciding how you are going to do it ! Are you both someone who has big deep and meaningful conversations through text? Are emojis your thing? Or is it something that she would appreciate you saying face to face?

There is no right or wrong answer , although whilst telling here face to face is the scariest , it is usually the best way to do it . That way you can really see how she reacts and if it’s possible it means you can seal the deal with a kiss! 

Choose the right timing

Next you want to choose the right timing , this is a somewhat intimate thing to do and really is the turning point of whether it makes or breaks your new relationship. So don’t do it when you are both drunk , stressed , fighting or in a noisy place !

Be a little strategic about the timing but also be open to the right opportunity when it comes along , whether that be when you are laughing and walking in the park , after you have just been intimate or maybe when she is being a cutey and you just have to tell her there and then. 

When things aren’t too orchestrated it means you won’t be as stressed out , but at the same time at least be aware of when there might be a better time to tell her! If she is super stressed out or maybe in a bad mood then it’s probably not the right time to tell her. 

Say it loud and clear

Ok guys here is where you have to jump out of the plane . There is no turning back now! Truth is if you have done all the above steps first you should at least know if she is starting to feel the same and when the right time is to say it. 

Now that you are ready , do it boldly! This doesn’t mean yelling it at her , it means just owning your words and your feelings . Keep it simple , clear amd authentic and stay away from cheese and long speeches. 

Simple phrases like “ I think I’m falling for you “ or “ I really like you , in every way”  are complete heart melters and come across really romantic and genuine. For me when my man told me , we were literally having a conversation in a pub with his family and friends and I simply stated “ I’m in love with you, to which he responded “ I’m in love with you too .” It was simple , to the point and bold , but it was the absolute truth! 

Expect the best , but prepare for the worst

Probably not what you wanted to hear , but as I said I can’t make this entirely risk free . Truth is love will always involve some unknown and lack of control and that my friends is why we like it! It’s important to remain optimistic because whatever you focus on is what comes into fruition . 

And if you have started to test a few things before hand then you should have a pretty good indication if she is feeling the same way or not before you tell her.  But a little dose of reality helps to keep things realistic and not set ourselves up for unmet expectations . 

If she doesn’t feel the same way then at least you have your answer and you can decide whether or not it is worth to keep pursuing her. Rejection happens to all of us and if you haven’t already I suggest you watch our other video on tips to handle rejection which I will link in the bio. 

Now if you are someone who really struggles under pressure and feels like all your confidence goes out the window , then I suggest you download our confidence cheat sheet.

It contains 18 proven ways to increase yuor confidence and become fearless , which is usually what we need when we are about to out our heart on the line!

These methods are based on science and psychology and will help ease your nerves under stressful situations like telling the girl you like her!.

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HERE’S THE RECAP:

1: Start dropping some hints and watch for her response 

2:  Show her first before you tell her 

3: Choose the right way to say it , in person is usually best!

4: Choose the ideal timing 

5 Say it loud and clear 

6: Hope for the best but expect she may not feel the same way.  

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