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Best First Date Questions (5 things to ask)

Here’s my new video about the Best First Date Questions!

What if I told you height, money and looks aren’t the only way to win a girl over? In fact, if you ask her these 5 questions I am about to tell you, you will leave a lasting impression that will set you apart from every other guy.

I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man Team, and in this video, I’m going to reveal to you the top 5 questions to ask a woman on a first date, that will have her wanting to know more about you on a second date!

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5 BEST First Date Questions

5: “Are you OK here or would you like to go somewhere else? I want you to be comfortable …”

The first thing a woman will be instinctively feeling and thinking is “Do I feel comfortable and safe with this guy”  Because we are doing two things when we meet you in the first 5 mins :

  • Working out if we are attracted to you
  • Working out if we feel safe around you.

As the weaker sex , we instinctively want to make sure we can trust you to lead us and make us feel secure and protected.

This is why it’s important to ask her that! Ask her if she feels too cold or hot, is it too loud or are there too many other males there so she feels intimidated.

Guys be the hero from the first date, take control and show straight away that you are concerned about how she feels.

Asking about if she feels too cold is also a great opportunity to take your jacket off and put it around her as well. By expressing your concern, you come across as a gentleman, which is what we want to know you are.

4: “Can you let me know as soon as you get home, so I know you’re safe?”

BOOM! This is so good because once again it shows that you are concerned for our safety, and that you will be still thinking about us after we have gone. It’s downright chivalrous behaviour and makes us feel like a damsel in distress, plus it gives us an excuse to text you first! (which is what we secretly want to do if we really like you.)

Remember one of the main impressions you want to leave on us, is that you actually care about our safety and wellbeing. It makes us feel valued and really feminine! We then already start to see you in the light of being a gentleman and a hero. NO joke that’s how we work, it really is that simple.

3: “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”

Ok this is a great question because it does two things: the first is that it gives you an indication of who we are as a woman and what we want… (remember guys don’t just aim to impress women , aim to impress women that are actually worth dating and investing into)

And secondly, it also sends the message to her that you are a future thinker…that you are a man with a plan and it may very well include her!

Trust me before we have even met you we are already starting to work out if you are our future husband and by the first 10 -30 mins we are now starting to piece together everything…. it’s how we work as women (hence why I coach women to not jump ahead and just stay present!)

But on the flip side use that weakness to your advantage IF you have the right intentions. It doesn’t mean she is the one, but by at least asking her this question it shows that you are also a man who thinks about the next part of your life.


2: “Have you ever been told that you look like …(insert a gorgeous celebrity)”

Ok, there is a slight rule with this one…make sure you choose someone who she actually remotely looks like… no point saying she looks like Beyoncé if she is Chinese. Also, make sure the celebrity is someone that has some sort of credibility, no woman wants to be compared to some trashy figure.

If you can’t think of anyone, then find another way to compliment her without it being sexualised, for example: “Has anyone ever told you, you have a beautiful smile?”  or “Did you know your eyes change colour in different light “?

Point out the small details that you are noticing and she will feel singled out and very special and you will come across really romantic…like seriously we melt with that sort of stuff.

1: “Are you a family type of girl?”

Double BOOM! This is going to hit her right in the feels because it shows that you are someone who appreciates family which equals: good man = good husband= good father =jackpot. Yep, we go that far.

Ask her about her family, parents and siblings to show you care and then talk about your own so that she can feel more connected and closer to you. No doubt the subject of children will come into the conversation at some point, feel free to express your own opinion here, but make sure you do so in a way that is thoughtful and promising, but not necessarily committed. For example, don’t say “I hate kids and never want kids” …instead say “I’m pretty certain I don’t want kids because I think the right woman is enough for me

Or if you do want children, then casually say “I think when I meet the right girls , then I’ll be ready for children” ….you want her to start painting pictures in her mind that she might be the special one for you!

Guys these are just 5 simple questions that can literally get her hooked on you. The thing is they are also great starting points for conversation to get to know more about each other which helps make a date flow .

But if you are someone that struggles with conversation , then make sure you download our free  conversation cheat sheet , which you can get by clicking on the image at the bottom right hand side of the screen .


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I’m Renee Slanksy for The Attractive Man and I’ll see you in my next video!

Bye for now!

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Founder of one of the top 30 global dating blogs and Australia's number 1 dating and relationship blogs The Dating Directory, Renee Slansky has been educating men and women on love since 2013.

Renee contributes advice to some of the largest online publications in the world including The Huffington Post , The Good Men Project , Your Tango , Elite Daily and more. She is a dating and relationship advisor for eHarmony , Plenty Of Fish , Happn , We Date and RSVP.com and continues to fuse the gap between technology and finding love. And her teachings have been written in educational textbooks that are distributed throughout the whole of North America.

Renee is often called to present as a relationship expert for Channel 7, Channel 10, SBS, talkshows, podcasts and commercial radio globally.

Her methods are based on providing a strong foundation of self love and sustainable solutions. As a love advisor for over 30 thousand women , Renee still works 1-2-1 with men and couples to help them cultivate strong, healthy relationships.
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