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Top 10 Things that RUIN Attraction

Wondering where you went wrong? Whatever did you do to ruin your date? Here are our top 10 things that ruin attraction – “Normal” things YOU are DOING that ruin your Dating Life:

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These common things are what men are usually guilty of doing – and without them knowing it, its actually killing their attraction.

Don’t ruin your chances even before the first date. Don’t destroy your attraction during your first interaction. Control yourself, be aware, and focus on things that make you the best version of yourself.

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How to get out of your Comfort Zone

Hey guys! Its Matt Artisan, Head Coach from The Attractive Man, and I’ll reveal my best tips on how to get out of your comfort zone –

On my video blog of my trip to New Zealand, I talk about how you can take gradual steps outside your comfort zone. By doing this, you will become a more confident, attractive man! Here’s the video:

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Do Women Like Being Approached?

Do women like being approached? Our International Dating Coach, Jules Bia asks the women of Vancouver about their most memorable times when men have approached them. You won’t believe what they say!

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How to Get Girls if You’re UGLY

Hey guys! Not gifted in the looks department? Don’t worry. Here’s how to get girls if you’re Ugly..

The belief that men need good LOOKS to get girls is complete B.S.

The REALITY of it is, most girls don’t even put looks ON TOP of their criteria list.

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How To GET GIRLS If You’re UGLY

Have you ever wondered how much easier your life would be if you had that six pack? If you had a chiseled jawline or you could add a couple of inches to your height? Imagine all the chicks you could get with a physique like that… Now get rid of all those fantasies and read on to find out how an average guy like you can score the girl of your dreams without any of those things.

So, you didn’t win the genetic lottery. That’s okay. The reality of it is, the majority of girls don’t put “looks” at the top of their criteria list anyways. Someone can transform from just “OK looking” to “pretty cute” just based on their personality.

The main reason behind this is because evolutionarily speaking, women are attracted to particular characteristics, that will promote the development of healthy offspring. Having good looks is one way to advertise your good genes, but there are many others.

Now don’t get me wrong, looks matter, but it isn’t the most important trait when women search for a mate. Personality has a much higher effect on how women will perceive a man as opposed to how a man will understand women. In other words: women care less about looks than men do. That being said, the key here is accentuating the internal characteristics that you CAN change as opposed to just focusing on your unchangeable external characteristics.

So now you might be wondering: “Matt, what are the most important qualities that women seek out?”. Don’t worry; I’m going to countdown the top 5 qualities you need to master, to become irresistible, regardless of your looks.

5 QUALITIES

Physical characteristics you can change

Starting with the basics, you guys need to look at the physical attributes that you actually can change. Things like facial structure, height, and body build are not things you can alter, but there are some easy fixes for some other physical characteristics.

If you have yellow teeth, get some whitening strips. Or if that’s too expensive, look up a concoction that will help whiten your teeth for cheap. If you have acne, buy an acne treatment or look into the cause of it to eliminate it. Make sure your hygiene is up to date, so you don’t smell like a trashcan. Lastly, look into your style. If you are still wearing the same clothes you graduated high school with, then good news; you’ve found the root of your dating problems. Look up some fashion bloggers or watch some fashion videos (we have some of this channel) that will help you look more mature and put together.

Develop a Deep Strong Voice

The next characteristic that you need to focus on is developing a deep, loud voice. This is one of the simplest things you can do to make you more desired by women.

It’s found that women prefer lower pitched voices whereas higher pitched voices are preferred for males. This has to do with the fact that a low voice is caused by higher levels of testosterone (male hormone) whereas a high sound is produced by higher levels of estrogen (female hormone). It is this masculine-feminine polarity that brings the two sides of the spectrum together. Therefore, if you fail to develop a strong, confident voice, it may subconsciously signal to her that you are weak, more feminine, and automatically turn her off.

Additionally, attaining deep, strong voice signals to others that you are more likable and competent. There was a study that took 125 participants and asked them to rate two versions of a voice and express their opinions on a variety of elements such as trustworthiness, intelligence, and dominance. It was found that the majority of the participants favored the deeper voices on all levels. This is why many politicians, news anchors, television hosts, and other television personnel speak in a lower register to be received well by an audience. You can use this information in your own dating life to appear more likable and competent to the girl you are trying to date.

Perform Altruistic Behaviors

The next characteristic trait that you must embody is the ability to perform altruistic behaviors. Altruistic behaviors are selfless acts or undertakings that put the welfare of others before one’s own. When I think about an altruistic behavior, my mind immediately goes to Jack from the TV show “This is Us” saving his family from a house fire, and then quickly going back in to save their beloved dog. Now, I’m not saying you guys have to risk your life like that because there are simple things you can do on a daily basis that make you appear more altruistic that are far less dangerous.

For example, opening doors for people, picking up the bill at dinner every once in a while, holding her hand, pulling out her chair, giving her a message… etc. These are things that ideally both parties should do for each other in a relationship; however, they are going to be valued more by a female because it gives the girl a sense of safety when she is with you.

Income

Next, we’re going to talk about money. Yes, you are going to have some income, I mean who wants to date a guy who lives in his parent’s basement? But this is usually where guys get it wrong. You don’t have to be Daddy Warbucks or the next Bill Gates to score a high-quality girl. For some reason, guys think that having a plethora of money is going to solve all of their dating problems and that chicks will just flock to them, but the reality of it is, you can be the wealthiest man in the world but if you have a shitty personality, women are not going to date you.

The key here is having enough income so that you can provide for yourself, your girl, and possibly a potential family in the future. This is important because a girl wants to feel secure in a relationship. If you make some sustainable income, it gives the girl security in knowing that you can contribute to the economic prosperity of your relationship.

Work On Your Charisma

The last characteristic I’m going to talk about is charisma. This magic word is something that anyone needs to master to build relationships, but especially for you boys who are lacking in the looks department. Looks fade over time, but no one can deny how someone makes them feel. That being said, work on your social skills, so you get better at communicating with people and winning them over.

If you guys severely lack this category, go out and socialize more to get comfortable talking to people. Go out on the weekends, strike up conversations with strangers when you’re out running errands on the weekdays, or try to make that conversation last a little longer with your waiter or waitress. Nothing comes easily without a bit of practice.

Charisma doesn’t just rely on conversations though, your gestures and emotional expressiveness are essential too. A specific way you can do this is with postural expansiveness, which means expanding the body in a physical space. A researcher looked at people’s choices on online dating apps like Tinder and found that individuals were twice as likely to choose prospective dates whose pictures displayed this postural expansiveness due to the act that these positions communicate high status and rank. This body language technique is easy to master and immediately gives you a more charismatic aura.

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How to Touch a Woman | 10 Ways to Touch Without Creeping Her Out

Asking yourself How to touch a woman nowadays? There are TONS of ways to touch her. But do you know how to touch a woman the RIGHT WAY?

Guys are oftentimes scared s^&*less when it comes to touching women. One small mistake and BOOM – no more attraction or worse..A slap to the face.

That is why the team, especially Matt, is dedicating our next few videos to help teach guys how to touch a girl. We’ll cover the proper ways of touching a woman. How to touch her to turn her on, how to touch her without getting creepy, how to touch her like a MAN..

In this video, we’ll cover how to build trust faster with our 10 ways to touch a woman. The answers to your “how do I touch her?” are found here – Matt explains the different ways to touch a girl, and the different kinds of touch during the interaction:

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HOW TO TOUCH A WOMAN
10 Ways to Touch a Woman without Creeping Her Out

Here are 10 ways to touch a girl starting from the more casual platonic touching and moving up to more intimate forms of touch because just like any form of escalation, you need to start small and increase the escalation over time as she feels more and more comfortable with you:

10. GREETING and SAYING GOODBYE

Handshake – FIRM, STRONG. Not too much, remember to be dominant without being domineering. You want her to feel safe and secure, not like someone who can hurt her. (Don’t crush her hand)

Kiss on the cheek – Depending on the culture, a kiss on the cheek is quite a common greeting. To other countries, its already an intimate gesture. Most of the time when I say goodbye I give a nice kiss on the cheek (that’s if we weren’t smooching already if the date went well)

Hug – When you meet her for a date always hug even if you met online. No hovering hand, okay? A nice bear hug, or if that’s too much, even a side hug works great.

9. CONVERSATION

Using your hands as you talk and touching her arm, shoulder or hand to emphasize a point. Example: “And you won’t believe what happened next” as you touch her arm for emphasis. Touch her waist or lower back at a loud club, which is a very sensual spot of her body, as you lean in to tell her something.

8. UNINTENTIONAL

Examples of situations where Unintentional Touch can happen are:

Standing near each other and your arms are touching

Sitting and your legs are touching 

Being close to each other

Can happen while walking

So if you are looking for a dating location, like a dinner or lunch date – Pick a venue with couches where your legs can touch

7. INQUIRING

Touch her hair, nails, or something she’s wearing and make a comment about it. Example: “Wow those are some interesting nails” as you hold her hands and examine them. Complementing her figure works as well, just like how women use “have you been working out?” as an excuse to touch your biceps. You can say the same line as you touch her abs.Wow, you are so fit” “Flex your arm Make sure she has a flat stomach before you do this. Pinching her belly flab won’t be such a turn on.

6. CORRECTING

Fix something about her like her clothing, hair or posture. Example:Hold on let me fix your shirt. Okay there, much better.

5. PLAYFUL

If you are at a bar or on a date you can play a Fun game-like thumb wrestling or slap hands. At bars it’s all about being playful. 

4. REWARDING

When she does or says something you like, simply reward her with a hug, high-five or kiss. Example: “Nice, high-five!” I know it seems childish but that’s the point. Who doesn’t want to be a little childish every now and then?

3. LEADING

While leading her from one place to the next you can hold her hand, go arm-in-arm or place your hand on her lower back.

2. MASSAGE

Hand massage 

Full massage (learn some techniques; take a class)

1. DIRECT

Where she just knows that you are really attracted to her so you make your move. You typically need a higher level of attraction and compliance for this to work.


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