You’ve probably seen average guys with beautiful women. But how do they do that?
It’s usually because they have the correct mindset! With the right mindset, women will be drawn to you naturally, and you won’t have to “try” so hard.
For example, with the correct mindset, you won’t worry about what to say because the right words will come out naturally.
This is an essential aspect of improving your game so watch this video on “7 Mindsets That Attract Women Like Crazy.”
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Keep in mind that these mindsets take time to train into your subconscious. But it is well worth the effort because these beliefs are so foundational that adopting them transforms not only your entire dating life but everything else you do as a man as well. You can make others feel great, make women want to be with you, you can even turn a girl’s “No” into a “Yes”!
Alright, I’m super excited to share this content with you guys, so without further adieu, let’s dive right in.
Everything will be fine
One of the most fundamental mindsets that guys who are good with women share is that, no matter what happens socially, everything will be fine in the end. Sure, there may be situations where you slip up and say something you wish you hadn’t, or when you end up feeling embarrassed or rejected. However, an attractive man sees these for what they are: temporary inconveniences or – even better – learning lessons.
With an “everything will be fine” mindset, you’ll immediately begin to come across as more calm and at ease in any scenario, and women will immediately feel calm and at ease in your presence, ready to open themselves up to you. This means opening up their hearts, minds, and bodies to you in a way that they will for few men throughout their life.
I don’t have to prove myself to anyone
Let’s get one thing straight – you don’t have to prove yourself to anybody else. A lot of dating gurus out there say you need to convince a woman of your high value, but that’s just another form of neediness, of needing to prove yourself – and therefore comes across as low status and unattractive.
The truth is, there is no need to “convince” a woman of anything in order to make her feel attraction for you. This is because attraction is not a result of effort, but a result of who you ARE. YOU are the only person you need to prove yourself to, and adopting this mindset will help you focus on your own progress as a man instead of others opinions, which in turn will attract hot women to you over time.
When you offer no apologies or explanation for yourself or your behavior, it demonstrates a level of confidence and ownership that few men have, and women pick up on it. In fact, I approach interactions with women wondering how THEY’LL prove themselves to ME! It’s a complete reversal of how most guys interact, and women take notice and are eager to show YOU why YOU should choose THEM!
For now, know that there’s NEVER a good reason to try and convince a woman of your value by telling her about how cool you are, how much money you make, or by proving yourself in any way.
What value can I give here?
As a dominant, confident male, you KNOW your life is good and you’ve got your shit handled. So then the focus becomes not on what you can get OUT of an interaction, but rather what you can give TO it.
Some examples of things you can give are… Fun energy… Great conversation… A non-judgemental vibe that allows people to express themselves… Basically, anything that adds more positivity to the interaction. Women pick up on this vibe and will gravitate towards you.
Now, inevitably there will always be a guy who completely misuses this concept and gets negative results. This will be the “logical-minded” guy who thinks that I’m talking about TRADING value for something else in return. That’s not it at all. Trading is NOT the same thing as giving. Giving is unconditional, it has no strings attached. So if you THINK you’re giving and yet people aren’t gravitating towards you, it’s a pretty safe bet that somewhere, maybe in the back of your mind, you’re hoping to get something in return. In other words, what you really want isn’t to give… It’s to trade – which doesn’t attract people in the same way.
I see guys run into this problem often when buying drinks for girls or giving girls compliments. Those things aren’t an inherently bad game, but if you’re just “giving” as a tactic to manipulate, control, or get something back, girls will easily see through it. They may accept a free drink or feed off the validation of a compliment, but in the exchange, you’ll lose their respect, and ultimately their attraction.
As a mission I want you to go out one night where the only intent is to give value. Not monetary value but emotional value. Making people feel good without expecting anything in return. This applies to both guys and girls. Give genuine compliments. Ask their name and use it while you talk because everyone loves the sound of their own name. Make people laugh and just have a good energy and vibe by having a lot of fun. You can even give value by leading people on experiences. For example, if you’re talking to a girl at a bar, show her a fun time. Take her to play a game like darts, or giant Jenga or verbal games like Fuck Marry Kill.
Each interaction is an investment in myself
When going out and meeting women, your main focus should be on the investment you’re making in yourself – the fact that you’re improving your social skills, amusing yourself, and developing your social circle. This mindset shift takes the emphasis OFF of getting specific results in each interaction and gives you a longer-term perspective in your development as a man. You stop worrying about the little things like wondering what to say to a specific girl or whether or not she likes you, and start focusing on the big picture – things like, am I approaching more confidently and consistently? Am I enjoying myself and contributing to the vibe? Am I getting the results that I want? Do I FEEL the way I want to in each interaction?
Viewing each interaction as an investment in yourself lets you focus on what’s directly inside of your control, and forget about everything else. Do this, and watch your “market price” as a man climb year after year. Having girls pursue you for relationships will come as a natural byproduct.
I say whatever the fuck I want…
Okay look, when guys start coaching with us, a lot of them struggle with knowing what to say and how to keep the conversation going. They see a girl at a bar, and the conversation just dies after a couple minutes. They just don’t know what to say.
But here is the problem…
You see, when you’re talking to someone, you have thoughts and opinions that come up… plenty of them, but when most guys are talking to beautiful girls, they filter out those thoughts and opinions because they think what they are going to say is either not good enough, not interesting enough, or may offend someone.
What ends up happening is an awkward silence.
Listen you have plenty of thoughts… you just have to stop giving a fuck about what anyone else thinks and just start saying whatever is on your mind.
Yes, at first you will say some stupid things, but that’s okay. One, it doesn’t really matter, and two… over time you’ll become more fluent in speaking your mind and owning it. Over time, You’ll begin to feel more confident and happier with yourself, and women will love you just for being you.
So many people go through life as timid sheep, afraid of how OTHER people will judge what they have to say, that when you get to the point where you’re comfortable saying what you have to say and owning it, you will be a breath of fresh air to those around you.
So do this, I want you to go out sometime this week with one focus. Focus on just saying whatever is on your mind.
There is nothing that I need from anyone
You don’t NEED much. Maybe water, shelter, food. There’s not much else you actually need. And you can provide all of these things for yourself. Even if you live at home or your family takes care of you somehow – if you were put in a position where your life depended on your ability to take care of your basic needs, you would find a way to do it.
An attractive man knows that wanting something and needing something are two different things. An attractive man may WANT a woman, but never NEEDS her – and that’s a very important distinction. No matter how much you may want a girl, knowing you don’t need her will help you keep things in perspective, allowing you to communicate your true self with uncompromising confidence – a trait that is extremely attractive to women. I call it the willingness to walk away, if necessary.
Let me see if she’s worth my time
Remember earlier, when I mentioned not having to prove yourself to anyone? Guys that really crush it with women take that a step further. They know their worth. And they know that most people aren’t worth their time. I don’t mean this in a judgemental way – it’s simply that life is short, your time is valuable, and you as much as anyone else deserves to fill your time with people that live up to your standards.
Coming into interactions with this mindset sets up a “screening” frame – in other words, you’re “screening” the girls you meet to see if they’re worth your time. Think about how much of a reversal this is from normal dating dynamics, where a guy spends all this money, time and energy trying to impress a girl. That’s too much work – and it doesn’t work! It’s needy and tryhard. Instead, let’s flip tradition on its head by getting HER trying to impress YOU and prove why she’s worth your time.
When you do this, not only will you get better results – but you’re doing her a favor as well! People place more value on those that they have to work to win over – and it’s every girl’s secret dream that she’s able to seduce the guy who’s just “out of her league”.
Now take a look at this video I show you exactly how to create romantic tension within seconds of meeting a girl. This is really important so that you don’t end up in the friend zone by creating a friendly platonic vibe. Instead, as soon as you meet her you’ll be able to create a more sexual, seductive, I want to rip your clothes off vibe!
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